Is it normal to avoid others i suspect of being divas/drama queens?

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I am a quiet person in general and I don't scream or pick fights. Loud, rude, boisterous people really kill my mood.

When I come across people (especially other women) with attitude, I usually cut the conversation short because in my experience, if they sense any sort of slight, they go off on you loudly.

If I get a customer with an attitude I just smile and say "yes maam" or "yes sir" and try to get rid of them ASAP because it turns me off when people yell a lot. I find it really distasteful when people snap their fingers, talk arrogantly or swear every second word.

Also in my experience, drama queens haven't really had any sense of loyalty to friendships at all, and will believe rumors straight away and try to fight you over something someone else said without even asking if it's true or not first.

I usually ignore when random people smart off to me or look at me funny. I think it's just something you should expect when out in public. But I have a family member who will start swearing (and sometimes swinging) at people who look at her too long or when she perceives "back talk", even if there isn't any. I've told her so many times to calm down and then she goes off on me too and won't talk to me for days.

Is it normal to avoid loudmouths? Drama queens have made me paranoid. I find myself totally turned off at the start of a convo with someone who seems to have "attitude" in their voice and mannerisms.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    I hear ya, my friend. Drama queens make the world a gloomy shallow place.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Avoid them like the plague. As for the ones you know in your personal life, like family members, you should think about distancing yourself from them. I have some relatives, who have the tendency to be dramatic over small things and very nosy. Most of them don't realise this, but over the years I have been cutting myself off from them. I don't see them anymore. I talk to them very rarely. They want to see me, I make empty pseudo promises. They want photos of me. I make pseudo promises again. I never send them photos. I have no plans to see them. Even when they are staying in my state, I never come to visit them.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    I know this is essentially meaningless on this site full of dog raping sister fuckers, but this is by far the most healthy behavior I've read about on IIN. You should avoid drama queens; they bring nothing but misery with a side of unexpected face punching in bars, so good on you.

    Having said that, I must note that swearing, in and of itself, does not necessarily make one "dramatic." I swear, but in a fun and laid back fashion.

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    • omgcatz
      9 years ago

      Thanks for your thoughts. When I say swearing, I mean like randomly getting in someones face and using every four-letter word in the english language in between each normal word. I may be a prude but I really don't consider that normal behavior?

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      • CountessDouche
        9 years ago

        Absolutely not...you are not a "prude" for avoiding people that start arguments and act aggressively for no reason. As I said before, avoiding that type of nonsense is healthy and completely understandable...it's a very good thing. I wish there were more people in the world that discouraged that type of behavior. :)

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    I wish I could do that ... I have a thing for Borderline-people. When they are in a good mood, they are fantastic, random and hyperactive and they really connect with me ... and when they are in their bad moods .. it's always drama over nothing, weird accusations and the likes ...

    Recently came to the conclusion to try and just not get to know the next person that has this sort of disorder.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Actually the family member I was speaking of I'm pretty sure is a narcissist, not borderline. I have a BPD ex and I would much rather be with him than around her.

      After he calmed down from one of his 'moods', he was genuinely sorry and tried to make up for it, he put real effort into it. He's an honest person and actively tries to defeat his BPD with therapy.

      My relative is never sorry, never admits she was wrong and always twists everything to make it everyone elses' fault. She is a compulsive liar and refuses to even see a therapist. In fact when I suggested it she threw a glass at my head!

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    Perfectly normal.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Yes, you're the normal one here! This is precisely why I don't like seeing my own sister very often. She's got OCD and is probably a narcissist as well. She explains bullshit to me that I'm not the least bit curious about, and then then she has the nerve to interrupt herself and say, "and you ask why", then she goes on to more in depth explanation.

    You see the thing is that I don't ask why, I never ask why and I don't want to know why. I wish she would quit presuming that I care about her stupid OCD nonsense. If I want to know why I'll actually ask myself.

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