Is it normal to always feel like a liability

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Like u feel that u r too much
u r a LIABILITY
Between friends family...

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Based on 6 votes (2 yes)
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  • SudoHalt
    3 years ago

    No, it's not. But I am guilty of exactly the same thing.

    When I am the guest and I am treated so well, or when I meet a new friend and they treat me like their longtime friend, I feel like I am a piece of crap who doesn't deserve any of that nice treatment.

    Or when my parents are still responsible for my expenses, I incriminate myself for incurring those costs on them.

    The truth is, most of the time, when you are being treated well, they are doing it without second thought. It is mostly me who was torturing myself. Sometimes I think I am an incompetent loser, but believe me, even then you'd still DESERVE a good treatment as long as you don't leave ill impressions.

    I have had one friend who would keep paying for my lunch and snacks and invite me over for food. Every time I try to do the same he'd refuse. I learned in the end that the best way to "lay off the debt" is by being nice to OTHER people. So if we happen to meet in real life one day and you find me nice for no reason, you know it's making me feel happy to host you because others were being nice to me before. All I can do is to pass it on.

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    • Monkey-13
      3 years ago

      That's EXACTLY how I feel sometimes

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      • SudoHalt
        3 years ago

        Throughout my life, and until the last year, I was not aware of my rather low self esteem. I think it's related.

        You just have to be aware of how you view yourself. You just have to be aware of your self esteem. Don't incriminate yourself or beat yourself up. Any chance where you can contribute to your self esteem, take it. But make sure you distinguish between that and being cocky, because sometimes I fall for this trap.

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    Better than feeling like a library I guess.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Nope, do you feel like you're a massive inconvenience? What do you think it is about you that might be the problem? I'm not saying you're the problem, but rather that I want to know what you think about why you might be a liability, or an inconvenience, or whatever.

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    • Monkey-13
      3 years ago

      Maybe because i don't really love myself
      Like i imagine myself if i was sm1 else would i like me
      Noo i won't
      Plus i kinds feel it the way they react or talk to me

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        Why don't you love yourself?

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        • Monkey-13
          3 years ago

          Something im still trying to figure!

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago

            I think it would be good to identify your negative thoughts about yourself so you can challenge those beliefs.

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  • Imafriendyrock
    3 years ago

    Liability how

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    • Monkey-13
      3 years ago

      Idunno like a burden to everyone around me
      Like they don't want around im too much

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      • Imafriendyrock
        3 years ago

        Ahh yeah that happens to alot of people. Felt like that recently hanging out at the gun range.

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