Is it normal to already feel this way about long distance relationship?

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I'm in love with my girlfriend. We have been together for a while and are all in all really happy together. There are no signs of trouble or anything and our relationship is pretty solid. However, at the end of the summer we will have to start a long distance relationship as she will be going to school in a different state. What worries me is that this past weekend she went up to school for a couple of days for orientation and met a bunch of new people, and I already started feeling a little bit insecure. Don't get me wrong, I trust her immensely, and I know she would never cheat on me or anything like that, but I can't help but wonder what kind of people she's meeting and stuff like that. I'm just scared that we might drift apart and she might meet someone new. And I'm not the jealous overprotective type either. I know she has every right to talk to other guys and make friends with them and everything, but I still feel really insecure about it. Is insecurity like this a normal part of a long distance relationship?

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Don't listen to all that insecurity shit. Nobodys not insecure to an extent. You sound perfectly normal. It's a big situation for you two, something neither of you are used to, so of coarse you're going to jump to all the worst case scenerios and such, but at the end of the day you just have to accept that theres nothing you can do about it. You won't be apart forever, so just be patient :) I'm sure she feels a bit of what your feeling to

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    • GlassDarkly31
      11 years ago

      Good advice.

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  • BlackDays
    11 years ago

    Aww well you trust her, so trust her. You two may very well drift apart though. These things happen . You never know, you may be the one to find someone else who just totally rocks your world. But I do hope it works out for you because you seem really nice :)

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Insecurity is normal for a person with low self esteem or low self confidence, which I'm assuming is probably the issue in your case.

    It's normal to worry sometimes, but not normal to let this worry consume you.

    So tell yourself this.
    She loves you and you know that she does, trust in her and if you can't believe for yourself that you're enough for her to come home to? Believe in the her that believes in you.

    If you do drift apart, that was probably bound to happen at some point anyway.

    If you two really care about each other and think its right, you will probably end up together. Not because fate or anything mystical, because that's just how people are.

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  • Crudhouse
    11 years ago

    Keep on developing yourself. The more you better yourself, the more you'll be confident when you guys get back together, and that'll be a positive thing for the relationship.

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  • lc1988
    11 years ago

    I just got through a year long distance (military bf in korea) and yes, your relationship will change. You can't expect her to be talking to you every second of everyday or even once a day. The insecure feelings won't go away. Just see how it goes and if it's something you can handle but honestly, I don't think first year of college is the best time to have a long distance relationship.

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