Is it normal to act cold towards someone after being blown off?

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I'm not talking being rejected by someone you really care about, but just a person who you thought might have been into you, but someday flat-out states "You're not my type", after which she tries to talk and chat as if nothing happened. Is it normal to take offense and start acting considerably cold to the person? My pride would make it hard to me in such a situation just to continue acting like I still like them. So yes, we're talking taking offense to rejection out of pride, a reaction out of damaged self-love.

I understand it's very valued and appreciated if people can handle rejection with class, but I'm not talking about calling the girl a cunt, slut or whatever, just not being very keen on continuing contact.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    So you're cold towards someone, because they're not attracted to you? That sounds rather childish, and petty. If we're in her shoes I'd be I'm glad I left you alone, because you obviously only wanted one thing, and didn't really care about or respect me enough to ever consider me a friend. Sounds like you're a selfish, entitled little child who just wanted to use her. She dodged a bullet. Whew! You were never worth her time in the first place.

    One thing for sure is she'll never regret not being attracted to you.

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    • RoyRogers
      8 years ago

      The OP probably thinks adults acting like children is normal.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    So, being told honestly and up front you've got no shot at getting that person into bed is a good reason to have nothing further to do with them? How very mature.
    Personally, I'd respect the honesty and consider them friend material.

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    • Xfing
      8 years ago

      I can't help that feeling of bitterness though. And don't be playing the immature card here. If I really was immature, I'd prank her or something. Or start telling everyone she's a stupid slut, dunno. I don't think not wanting anything further to do is that bad in this case.

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      • theseeker
        8 years ago

        I can understand it's easy to feel bitter in that situation, but it's also a very simple-minded way of looking at things because you have to realize she's actually doing you a favor.

        The way you described it, she wasn't trying to be rude or disrespectful. She's just keeping it real. Why would you want her to waste your time giving you some false sense of hope? I agree with thegypsysailor. That type of honesty is rare and I would have a lot of respect for that person.

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        • Xfing
          8 years ago

          Sure. But then I'd rather just move on.

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    If you get flat out rejected, you're entitled to have an "ouch" moment, and then go talk to someone else. You're under no obligation to continue the conversation like nothing happened.

    So, if "cold" means just ignoring someone then it's normal. If it means actively being a little bitch, then not normal.

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    When a girl says, "You're not my type" she really means that she doesn't want to even be your friend. It's a definite brush back. The burden is now on her to act with class. If you cancel all feelings of support as well as bitterness you will be able to move on quickly.

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  • flyingnostalgia
    8 years ago

    As petty as it sound but people do do it.

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  • Intolerant_of_Tolerance
    8 years ago

    If she does still try and talk to you and spend time with you, blah blah blah, well than you do still have a chance. What you basically need to do is continuously talk about sex, how you want to have sex with her, etc. If she really isn't ever going to have sex with you she will be gone so fast and you can just move onto the next girl. If you have a shot she wont be gone. Just make sure to set a time limit on how long you want to do this for, I'd suggest a week or so, depending on how bad you want to have sex with the girl.

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