Is it normal to...enjoy arguing with a gf?

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Genuine question..Is it ok, normal, to enjoy, a lot..Arguing with a gf or sig. other? Not all the time, but, when do..Just get so into it that you have to keep it going and win? Find ways to use information and destroy the other person>? Or maybe, hold off, stockpile info, and launch an attack later? We both seem to enjoy it, but with me...Damn..When we argue and go at it, I'm SO turned on...By her, and, the winning, the, at times...Destruction of her view.. Do I like the WIN, more than sex with her after?

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Yes it is the best sex and then after the relationship ends she develops body dysmorphia

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    • Justmehere
      6 years ago

      See above..We don't get mean or personal attacks, and I never say anything about her body or body shaming (I don't have to..she's in great shape). Think we just enjoy the rush of a challenging, ok, at times, intense argument, then, the making up process.

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      • rayb12
        6 years ago

        It has to do with worth too, not only direct attacks. Do I really need to spell this out for you?

        No little girl dreams of having a boyfriend that argues with her all the time.

        Just because she kisses you after doesn't mean she has as much fun as you do.

        She's with you because she loves you. She does not want to fight all the time and to be in this situation makes her hate herself.

        You not treating her like a queen or best friend makes her feel like she is not worthy of better treatment. And she hides her depression from you.

        Men are stronger than women and not emotional in the same way. Even though she can act like it is this theatrical thing, on the inside it hurts her very deeply.

        I'm not saying she is perfect in this either. But you really ought to make a better effort to listen, or talk about whether you two should stay together.

        This type of thing can break a girl

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        • rayb12
          6 years ago

          For full disclosure I had never made the assumption you talk about her body. Clearly you love it.
          I was speaking because I have seen first hand girls return to eating disorders or other self destructive habits after being treated like this by guys. Despite them only saying positive things about their bodies.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    She should wise up, and dump you.

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    • Justmehere
      6 years ago

      Why? About half of the time, she starts it up, or pokes until something is said and we get into it. Not like we get personal or attack each other..It's more like, sports, views, misunderstandings. And, we always make up nicely.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        Well, that's her business, and really just my opinion. Talking about "destruction of her point of view", sounds quite harsh in my opinion. How do you feel when she wins arguments?

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  • wigz
    6 years ago

    Sounds like you're an abuser. A normal person doesn't want to lord over another person like that. Sounds like you find something to hold over another's head and use the fuck out of it because you can't keep anybody around otherwise because you have little to nothing to actually offer as a person.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    Preferring arguments to sex is definitely strange.

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    I treat her extremely well, and show my love for and to her all the time. When everyone else bails on her, those she's helped, when she needs help..I'm the one providing. Often tell her "You need, I provide", which is why she loves me and we do so well together. It's just, most times we go out, some flareup will happen, and we'll end up, even passive aggressively, getting into it. By now, even I know, it's going to happen. Maybe she's gotten me so used to it that we both like it. I don't know..

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    • wigz
      6 years ago

      What does that mean, "you need and I provide"? You think she loves you because you pay her way? You think physical action means she genuinely loves you instead of her just using that to keep the money flowing? You think, even if she's genuine, that lording financial support over her is healthy? You think she likes the arrangement, or is just tolerating it? You're a delusional creep.

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      • Justmehere
        6 years ago

        Didn't mean only financial..Read the whole thing, man. I also mean I provide for her emotionally when she's down or having a breakdown about her health issues. I'm the one who's there for her, as I should be. Yes, I've given money and paid bills for her, but that wasn't my point for provide.

        She even admits that when we go out, knowing I don't like when she chats with other guys (sometimes, extensively), including going outside for a smoke with a few, which I honestly really hate and does prompt an immediate back and forth, but brushes it off as "It's just how I (she) am". That's what usually causes our arguments when we're out, her chatting up and holding court with other guys while I sit there like an idiot or have to lean in to the conversation. We'll start off fine, having our usual good time together, then that will happen and, boom..Argument time. Like my post says, thing is, now I think we both enjoy and expect it.

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        • wigz
          6 years ago

          She chats with other guys while out 'with' you. Haha. This is one of two things: 1. You're her ride and free meal/drink ticket so she can hang out with guys she's actually interested in. 2. You're completely delusional and you're not actually out with her, you're just showing up wherever she is attempting to hang out with her.

          How desperate are you? Get ahold of yourself.

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          • Justmehere
            6 years ago

            Neither, dickhead..She's my gf, we go out once in a while (difficult due to her health issues), and this happens most, if not all, of the time. We have a long history together and do very well with each other.

            Get ahold of myself, asshole?

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            • wigz
              6 years ago

              You have no respect for each other and you have no self-respect either. That's not a caring, loving relationship. That's not 'doing very well with each other'.

              Yes, get a hold of yourself, stop lying to yourself, stop with the mental gymnastics and face the facts. You have issues and your 'relationship' is toxic garbage. You're never going to succeed unless you face reality and work on yourself first.

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  • Wtf055
    6 years ago

    It's all fun and games til one of you is all out of feelings and fighting.

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