Is it normal this happened and how to be more frank the right way

When I was a younger I had a boyfriend and I had never been interested in sex or at least not enough to feel emotionally ready for that leap. He knew this didnt seem to mind I guess because he was on anti-depressants he had decreased lusts. For my birthday he gave me luxury hotel stay at a different city for a concert to see my favorite band. I was too naive inexperienced to know if a guy do this it means you have to have sex with him and I had never done anything like it I was so nervous before the trip that I had panic attacks and went to the doctor because I thought I was dying because I had never felt like that before. I didnt have sex him at the hotel and he wasnt mad at me but in hindsight I am embarrassed for myself.

Now I am going to stay in motel with a guy I have known much longer than I had known my ex which was a short time only. He need to stay a weeknd because its a long drive for himh. Im going to stay with him because its fun and so we can have a lot of time to stop being shy and because I like him. Him and I have been questioning for a long time if we could be a good couple and never spent much time together due to distance and because before his terrible accident he could manage to drive back and forth in one day so he did but that wasnt long time for two extremely shy people to open up and be comfortable together. I am still embarrassed though about the situation with my ex six years ago when I was the way I was and I dont want to make awkward moment again so how clear should I be about the sex. Im not against it but like its not a given and probably not gonna happen this time. I dont want to sound like I am blaming him for a pervert but I dont want to send a false expectation you know (Again) and I dont want to sound like prude because IM NOT