Is it normal the guy i’ve been chatting with online for years is married?
I met this wonderful man about five years ago. It started out as is just chatting casually about normal things, such as pets, college, daily life, etc. I had no idea what he looked like or that he was even a man until later. So we were just friends.
Eventually it progressed and I got to know him better, I was very attracted to him, we talked every day, even on the phone every now and then. Years in, he was telling me he loved me, wanted to visit me, etc.
A few months ago, I got really curious because I actually don’t know a whole ton about the guy. My casual detective work turned into me finding out he’s been married the whole time I’ve known him and has a small child.
I’ve continued talking to him like normal. He doesn’t know I know. I feel bad about it but I also don’t because he would’ve cheated on his wife anyways even if it wasn’t messing around with me. I feel bad for his wife but it’s not my fault her husband is doing things he shouldn’t. I didn’t even know she existed until recently.
Is it normal to feel this way? Should I keep talking to him like normal? Should I say something to him about it? I’m really conflicted.
Stop talking to him | 12 | |
Ignore it | 4 | |
Confront him | 13 | |
He’s probably not happy with his wife, he would’ve strayed anyways | 6 |