Is it normal that you feel numb knowing your friend is dying

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Is it normal to ignore the world and go numb and ruin your life quickly through going spending and doing reckless things when you find out your closest friend has non treatable cancer. Meine bessere Hälfte is dying... I can't do anything except be their for her in final moments. She lives in Germany is coming over to SoCal for valentines. We will be road tripping to Las Vegas from LA that day. Going to do all the things america is known for and i will be spending her last days in Deutschland doing what Germans do. Mainly the fun stuff. Still i just feel like i dont care about life. I already but uselessly fast cars and just going through my money for idiotic crap. I just feel like it is unreal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Its normal. The first year may not even faze you but it kicks in later.

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  • theseeker
    9 years ago

    I think it's normal to feel that way. I've had a similar experience of losing a loved one. I gave up on life for like 5 years until I finally woke up. What I didn't realize is in that period I was just creating a whole bunch of other problems on top of that problem by giving up. It sucks, but don't let it bring you down because your friend wouldn't have wanted that. It will pass eventually

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  • timetochange
    9 years ago

    You will always remember the things you are doing for your friend. I have experace with this and tell you do not forget to be good to yourself while you going threw this. It can't be about your friend. Make sure it about you too. You are living with regret and that is something most of us can't say.

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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    "Your better half is dying"

    So now you are gonna destroy your own life and that girl will die knowing that you are doing this as some kind of sacrifice for her. You want her to die thinking that she was the reason you are throwing your life "away".

    Classy.

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    • swaggs
      9 years ago

      I just don't want to think that she will be gone. After everything. It has to end short lived life. I am not sacrificing anything, I just don't want to know. She doesn't deserve this fate. No I don't want that. I just want her to know that she matters even after she's gone. I just feel careless because I don't want to realize reality.

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      • chained_rage
        9 years ago

        Here's what you do:

        You give German girl the best, most fun time of her life ever. You make her feel loved and that she will be missed.
        Then you grieve FOR HER. Not for you.
        Then you listen to "Skillet - Lucy"

        Then you bawl your eyes out when it reaches the part in the song that goes: "I'd give up all the world to see that little piece of heaven looking back at me"

        Then you pick yourself up
        Brush your teeth
        Move on with your life.

        It doesn't help you, or anyone around you, to make your own life miserable by "not caring" anymore and being reckless.

        Because, in the end, you still have to live.

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        • theseeker
          9 years ago

          Had it right except for the song.
          You listen to "POD - Goodbye For Now."

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      • theseeker
        9 years ago

        People have different ways they want to cope with things. Not caring isn't the right way, but I'm not the type to say I told ya so because I think the hardest part of holding on is letting it go.

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