Is it normal that when people show interest in me, i don't like them anymore?

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This has happened a few times and I'd always put it off to them just not being right for me. But literally every guy who has shown interest in me, I have ended up not being interested in. (And not always, but 9 times out of 10, I had been previously attracted to the guy, just not after they show interest)

It tends to freak me out/I don't believe they're attracted to me and I just make up excuses for not being able to go on dates, or stop replying to their texts until eventually they stop?

I want to be able to trust that people like me, but I think this could be the issue here? HELP/advice much appreciated! I'm 21, female, college student.

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  • Koda
    9 years ago

    Some people are only attracted to unattainable people. Maybe when you realize that there's more to a relationship than sexual attraction, you'll be able to feel comfortable getting to know a guy for who he is and put yourself out there more.

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  • Tommythecat.
    9 years ago

    Super immature. Grow up and get laid already

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I am currently sleeping with this guy, thankyou. Just him showing how keen he is for me puts me off him, even though I know I am attracted to him.

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      • Tommythecat.
        9 years ago

        I really don't know about that it's super weird like strange.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Lol he's one lucky guy. I knew this post had to be about a girl, you probably complain about only being attracted to assholes also right?

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        • Aeon
          9 years ago

          And I bet you think you are a nice guy. :D

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            Nice guys finish last. It's a shame to say it, but the truth is all that matters.

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  • ㅤㅤㅤ
    9 years ago

    Holy shit you sound like me, I do this too. I just feel awkward and self conscious so, gotta say normal.

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    • handsignals
      9 years ago

      dude you don't have a name??????

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      • ㅤㅤㅤ
        9 years ago

        Do you know sign language?

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        • handsignals
          9 years ago

          doz handsignals no sine langwig <:(

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          • ㅤㅤㅤ
            9 years ago

            Ooooooh

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yeah it's so annoying! I keep like 'persevering' with guys cause I really want to get over this, but then what if I am just not attracted to them anymore, I don't want to be that bitch that lead them on haha

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      • ㅤㅤㅤ
        9 years ago

        For me it's more like, I just feel uncomfortable, or like they're always watching me when someone (males, females) like me in a romantic sense. I'm already with someone, I don't want anybody else looking at me like that.

        If I were you, I'd just start using the term "friend" around, or drop hints as to why you're not available. You're right, it's not good to lead people on so saying thinks like, "you're a very good FRIEND", casually saying you're not looking for a relationship or even saying you're not into MEN (though you'd be surprised that some guys actually try to challenge this lololol) could work.

        If you find out a guy likes you, as soon as you get it across that you're NOT interested, you'll probably feel back to normal with them.

        What struck me is when you said, "I don't believe they're attracted to me" - because I'm sure you're attractive to these people, and while some may just be infatuated, don't be afraid to have confidence! If you want to, don't be afraid to go out with someone. I know how you feel though, haha. The person I'm with says he loves me all the time, and I love him deeply, but sometimes I think, "That's impossible. Nobody could ever love me."

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          No, no, sorry I think you have the wrong end of the stick here, sorry I probably wasn't clear.

          They're people that I am attracted to (and hence more than friends) but I get freaked out when they show interest in me and start to treat them like just a friend rather than more. So it's like I ruin them for myself, if that makes sense?

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          • ㅤㅤㅤ
            9 years ago

            Ooh sorry, I looked too much into it haha. My bad!

            Naw yeah I guess I understand that. I'm not sure if it's normal though, although I do that too so I can't say.

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