Is it normal that when my boyfriend is away i stop liking him as much?

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When my boyfriend of 4 months goes away for a few days I get bored and begin to analyse our relationship. The thing is when we are not together, his negative attributes, or things that make us incompatible, seem larger and more significant than when we are together. They seem to be more plentiful than his positive attributes. Is this normal? Does this mean we should break up?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Absence makes the heart grow fonder, is the saying. You definitely do not fit that one. I'm guessing this will probably not be a long term relationship.

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  • MissesAnonymous23
    9 years ago

    It's just being an over thinker. I use to do the same thing before I moved in with my now fiancé. It passed for me. Not saying moving in is the answer, but give it some time. Try writing down the negatives and throwing them away, and write down the positives and keep them by your bed.

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  • mrniceguy20
    9 years ago

    you really are a dirty slu arnt ya

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  • Syturio
    9 years ago

    I do the same thing sometimes, just like 'MissesAnonymous23' said, its just because we are over thinking. I love my girlfriend, principaly when iam with her, but when iam away for some days i start having bad thoughs about her and feeling that i should breack up with her, but as soon as we meet again that wierd feeling goes aways. I guess its normal, alot of people feel the same.

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  • Tarkio
    9 years ago

    I do the same thing with my boyfriend. I enjoy my time with him, we have fun. But afterwards I think about behaviors and situations and I wonder what his motives are. When we are apart, I am ready to break up with him because I feel I can't do it anymore, and then we get together and I enjoy the time.

    I have come to the conclusion I need to let him go in my mind and not think so much about him. I am distancing myself and looking at other men, thinking about the man I would like to be with. Maybe gradually we will break up, but also if I pull away a little, it may strengthen our relationship.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Sounds like you arent missing him, only focusing on the fact that there are more negative than positive attributes. That tells me that you should leave him because you dont see or feel a future with him.

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