Is it normal that the memory of my ex wanting to be a stripper hurts me?

She used to be so conservative about her body when you were together to the point where you never had sex and she never sent you naked pictures... and yet she wanted to become a stripper/nude model? That would bother the hell out of me too. It's like she wouldn't have wanted to show you her body but she'd be willing to do it for other people she doesn't even know and get paid. No offense to strippers or anything in the least, but... Geez.

So she had problems with nudity in front of you (her partner then) and didn´t have sex with you over the years...and she wanted to be a stripper and show her body to other men in a sexual way... Something weird and totally confused must have been going on with/inside her. I guess you may consider yourself lucky that you got out of the relationship, but it is just natural that your memories hurt you.

Perhaps you feel unsettled because you treated her unfairly.

After all, she only "hinted" that she "kind of wanted" to be an "exotic dancer or nude model." In reality she behaved in a reserved and conservative manner about sex.

She likely shared this little fantasy with you and your mom quite innocently. Most of us have fantasies about being a sensation in something at which we're not so great.

You, however, do not seem so tolerant exaggerating what she hinted at into a far more lurid stripper/porn star career path. And saying it'd be OK "if" your friends were strippers, but not your gf, is just a big smoke screen. Sure you would. Not.

This is about hubris. Yours. She shared her little fantasy and Mommy disapproved. Ouch. She now wasn't perfect. Ouch again.

You dumped an "amazing relationship" over some tiny misunderstanding. Talk about an inflated sense of your own importance and pride.

It's not about her perfection. It's about your intolerance. You are long past having strong feelings for her. You blew it, and that is what you can't get over. But hey, no none's perfect.

So while others say get over it, I'd suggest get over yourself.

That would make me feal weird my gf going I want to be a striper its like her saying I want to get raped by outher men

I can understand why it may bother some people but she is free to do what she wants with her body. At least she mentioned it and didnt just do it first then tell you. And especially since you aren't together anymore, you really shouldn't dwell on it.

Get over yourself dude your ex has and will be doing a lot worse shit then dancing nude or on a pole since she left your geeky ass!!! She'll be enjoying herself too so don't kid yourself!!

She only "hinted" at it "kind of." And so what? She more likely meant belly dancing and posing in an art class. Wouldn't that be more consistent with how she actually behaved all the time? You can bet that if she had actually become anything remotely like the exaggerated porno queen of this prude's slur he would have said so. The only thing the OP shows is how quickly people will fall for a slur and imagine the worse. He's the imperfect one and that's what hurts.

remember - the ex is an ex for a reason

as violet stated already - you no longer own her and cannot dictate her life.

if it hurts you that she wants to strip...that's your own personal problem and none of her concern

You're not together anymore. It's not your business to judge her decisions.

Honestly this seems to be pretty strange to me man.

Up to an extent I can imagine that if you were very hurt by her intentions at the time, it could increase your apprehensiveness regarding the sexually free viewpoints of women you are dating later on in life.

However, seeing that it seems to be merely about this particular woman it is weird and just something you should leave behind.

Ooh what @mando said ! :)

"A first class ticket to a semen covered death in the basement"

I think anyone dumb enough to become a stripper or hooker or whatever deserves every bit of horror that awaits them.