Is it normal that sleeping with other man before sex with mine turns me on?

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First of all: It's not exactly cheating, we have kind of a "don't ask, don't tell" approach to it. Meaning we are free to do what we want as long as we don't do so "openly".

Last year, we've been going out with friends in the evening. Me with mine, he with his. We phoned and agreed to meet up in a club somewhat later. I arrived there way before, was horny and ended up having a quicky on the toilet with a guy that flirted with me.

Minutes after we were done, my boyfriend arrived at the club. Somehow the situation made me so excited i grabbed him then and there and dragged him back into the toilet with me.

Ever since, I tried to set things up like that. He comes home from work very punctually every day, give or take a few minutes. I had people over for sex right before that time, with me staying on the bed for when he came home and using their ejaculate as lubricant for my boyfriend. And it's so intense to me. Knowing he's in me when just before another guy was and he has no idea about that is so...exciting, for lack of a better word.

Now, I'm wondering if there is any biological or psychological explanation for that? Personally, you may think it's wrong all the way, but mostly I'm wondering if it's "normal" from a biological or psychological viewpoint-
thanks.
(Also, it's my personal choice to have sex without condom, so please hold off on any preachings about that. I'm on the pill, and everybody gets to choose their poison. Some people drink themselves to death, others die on motorbikes. If fate decides I have to die because I let guys cum in me, so be it.)

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Woah! That's dirty! I guess since you already have a closed open relationship, maybe you're getting bored with that and crave more excitement? You may be a sex addict.

    The cum thing, though, I have just have to say something! I mean.. is that part your deal to not wash off or use protection or anything? Fuck pregnancy, you're going to get an infection or disease and give it to your boyfriend!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Ah, don't misunderstand. While I sometimes do have a nice experience with, basically, a stranger, MOST of the time it's with "regular" friends with benefits.

      There's about 4-5 guys, 2 of which are in a relationship themselves...I am aware that does not eliminate the possibility of STD's, but it's not like I just go around telling random people on the street to come on over at a certain time for some fun.

      As for wether it's a part of the deal to me, kind of, yes. Not always realistically possible anyway, but when it is, it's an extra kick.

      Also, to further clarify, even if it's 5 guys, that does not mean i have a different guy over every day of the week. With some of these, it's like every other week, with others maybe 2-3 times a year.

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      • myboyfriendsbitch
        10 years ago

        I'm not judging you. Everyone has their sexual preferences. I just think you should keep it clean when you do have sex with a stranger.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    all consentual = normal. I assume you'd be okay if your boyfriend did the same thing?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      as long as I am not confronted with it, sure.

      We tried a threesome with another girl quite at the beginning once, because he really wanted to do that.

      It was my impression that he was too focused on her, wether pure imagination or true.
      Logically, I could understand that it's more thrilling to play with the toy you can't usually have.
      Emotionally, i felt hurt by that neglect.

      So yeah, I would be okay with stuff he does, as long as I don't have to compete for his attention and feel he loves me.

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      • quentari
        10 years ago

        I'm sure he feels the same :)

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