Is it normal that she's still not over this guy?

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My friend has been kind of sad lately over this out of state online guy she had a fallout with. She seems grumpy and to not want to do much of anything lately because he's on her mind half the times. I comfort her whenever possible and I got her to join a dating site in order for her to meet real people in her area to love her and to get her to forget him but nothing works. I just don't understand how someone can feel sad over a dude she's never met. Is it normal?

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  • DarkHighway
    8 years ago

    Online relationships are definitely a huge culture shock for a lot of people. They may be somewhat unconventional but they're becoming increasingly common as our world grows smaller via the Internet.

    Like any relationship, it's tough to mend the vacancy of having another person there to talk to or share affection with, digitally or otherwise. It may take some time for her to get over things, so I'd give it as much time as it would had she gone through a "real breakup". Maybe spending some more time with friends would help her get her mind off things.

    If she's still not over this dude after a long period of time, I'd try setting her up with a mutual friend or single guy you know that she may be compatible with. Online dating is more unpredictable but it often starts after bonding via mutual interests, so you never know. (I just wish more online dating websites were based on discovering mutual interests rather than photo and profile stalking, but that's just me).

    How I know: I once had a long-distance/online relationship myself but ended up visiting my ex. Even though we were thousands of miles apart, we were still constantly in touch and keeping one-another company. When it ended, it was tough to lose her but I took my time to recuperate and eventually dated locally.

    Hope it works out for your friend, best wishes!

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    I've gotten sad about online stuff too.

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  • horny_simpletons
    8 years ago

    Maybe it's a good thing she hasn't actually met him, cause then she might have gotten even more attached. I felt more attached to my crush after we physically met (first only knew each other through texting and online interaction).

    The heart wants what it wants, it doesn't matter to her that he's so far away. Just give her some time, and let her know you're there if she needs to talk.

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