Is it normal that she's always late?

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Looking back, I'm pretty sure that this girl has been late to every single date we've been on, except for the ones where I go to her place to pick her up. A couple times she showed up like 45 minutes to an hour late, and when I asked her why she wouldn't even tell me! One of the times I called her at the time we agreed to meet to ask how far she was and she said she hadn't even started yet! Then she showed up an hour later and her place is only 20 minutes away from mine!

I don't think I should put up with this anymore! When I'm late it's usually no more than 10 minutes and I still even call ahead so she knows!

I feel like I can't ever schedule anything that relies on times, like going to a show or catching a train or something, because I can't ever be sure that she'll be there!

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  • dom180
    9 years ago

    I don't understand how someone could be late all the time. I mean, surely if you're always 45 minutes late you should start getting ready 45 minutes earlier? If you can't plan something that simple, I think it shows either a severe lack of respect to the person you plan to be meeting or a bona fide cognitive dysfunction.

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  • WeirdMe
    9 years ago

    She could be depressive. such people find it hard to start something like getting ready for going out. shes propably often late to evreything, not just you..

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    Sounds like it's something she doesn't want to talk about. Her reason could either be something silly or something of great importance.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    I don't think I would date someone who did this.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I cannot abide tardiness, period. If someone is going to be late and doesn't call without a damn good reason, they will rarely get another chance. Just yesterday I had a meeting with a contractor to get a quote on several thousand dollars of welding work for the boat (a project that could possibly turn into tens of thousands of dollars for him) and the guy showed up an hour late. No call, no apology, but an hour late to a meeting he had arranged! I really don't care if his is the cheapest bid, because how could I trust him to deliver as agreed?
    I'll get up hours early, leave the boat hours before the appointed time and sit in the rain for an hour, before I'd be 5 minutes late to an appointment. Should the world around me collapse, I'd beg, borrow or steal a communication device, to inform those I have a meeting with that I'll be late. My word means a great deal to me, and if I say I will do something, then I will make every effort or spend any amount of money possible, to keep it.

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  • MeowMeowMeowMeowMeow
    9 years ago

    Have you actually DIRECTLY MENTIONED this to her before? (Not passive remarks like "Why couldn't you tell me?" -- straight out tell her that it pisses you off when she's always late!)

    Maybe she has a terrible concept of time and doesn't know how much it worries you. Until you thoroughly discuss it with her, STOP COMPLAINING about it. If you have a problem in your relationship, talk to HER.

    (Is it normal that I get urked over men whining about women online when they don't even have the balls to talk to the woman about the issue?!) :/

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I do try to talk to her about it but I get shut down when she clams up on me. And sometimes I don't want to really press into it because it would put us both in a sour mood when we do actually get to go on the date.

      One time I lied and said it was okay and not a big deal (I was definitely pissed off) just so that I didn't have to spend the next few hours miserable with her. But then her response was, "No it's not okay!" Then I said, "Well, so then why were you late?" And she looks at me and says, "I don't know, I just am!"

      Weird.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    Since she has no logical explanation as to why she's late, why not just break up with her? She probably doesn't care much about you if she's always late.

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