Is it normal that people who complain about all of the "drama"in their lives...

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Is it normal that people who complain about all of the "drama" in their lives seem to bring it upon themselves?

I understand that conflict in life can be unavoidable, but if you are dealing with people that you have a choice in not to deal with and they are causing your life trouble, wouldn't it make sense to just... find a new crowd and smile and wave at them, y'know, stay friendly but not friends?

It just seems like people I know that keep complaining about "drama" can't seem to get enough of it. It IS possible to have friends that are emotionally stable (within reasonable expectations), but for some reason, I see these people causing a lot of drama in their own lives.

What do you guys think?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I thoroughly enjoy listening to my brother complain about the drama in his life. The humourous manner in which he explains the dysfunctional aspects of his life, gives me such a good laugh. I'm laughing with him, of course.

    I met a true drama queen (female) about five years ago. I was sucked in because I didn't identify her as such from the beginning, so I didn't have the insight to avoid her. After a couple months of her friendship and discovering a boat-load of lies, I had begun to wish I'd never met her. She would gossip relentlessly and antagonize people whom she didn't approve of for months and months on end, but then she would complain when they retaliated against her (extreme drama). I tried to rationally explain things to her so that she could see that the drama was not necessary, but then she turned on me too (she thought I wanted to destroy her fun). I am glad I no longer live in the same city as her. My palms are sweating just writing this paragraph. Sometimes crazy people frighten me.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      I believe that. I have hung around these dramatic sort of people, lacking the insight to know that they are such. It seems when you try to explain it to them, they become irate... in my opinion it is because they are so egotistical or so weak of mind that they can't stand it when others don't just blindly agree with them.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        I think they get a lot out of the excitement of the drama and are pissed with anyone they think might come between them and their next fix.

        The sad part was, she was a mother of two toddlers. She's also one of the most neglectful and selfish parents I've ever known. The best thing for those kids would be for the father to divorce her and take them away. She wouldn't really miss them as she's wanted to abandon them many times in the past, but she would use their absence in her life as another means to gain attention from others.

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        • wigsplitz
          11 years ago

          I was going to ask if you were talking about my sister in law, but then you said she was married, so that ruled her out, everything else is the same though!! She has two kids by 2 different guys. She had one at 15 and the other one at 17. The first one I think was just for attention because it just so happened to occur right after my husband and I announced that I was pregnant.

          This girl is on the phone 24/7, she hangs up with one person and is already dialing another. Then she complains and gossips about the previous person she was talking to, and it goes on like that all day, non-stop. She was always whining about getting into fights and people doing shit to her over myspace and facebook. But she wants it because that's what she talks about, if she didn't farm her drama, she'd have nothing to be gossiping about. That's what she does on the phone too, she's just fishing for information, she doesn't really care about the person she's talking to. Just looking for something to start up shit.

          She tried to draw me into it but I didn't fall for it. Then, like you, I was her new enemy. I don't care, fuck her. I told her off, it gave her something to talk about for a day or so I guess. I had to tell her off because she was leeching information from my husband and using it for her games, so I had enough and I told her and later told her family off and they are all cut off from the information pipeline. That whole fucking family is bad news except my husband and his brother, they're normal.

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          • wigsplitz
            11 years ago

            Let me add, her parents are just as bad. When she was 15 and started fucking up, they'd be calling us constantly telling us she's doing this and that. We actually gave them good advice but they didn't even listen. They just kept calling and complaining about her. Then they call and tell us her dumb ass is pregnant. We were like, omg you people are so fucking dumb.....

            They live in a secluded development, all they had to do to control her is not take her anywhere. She couldn't drive and neither could her friends, so if these idiot parents didn't take her to parties and shit this shit wouldn't be happening. They wouldn't even take her phone, make-up or computer away.

            They totally sacrificed this girl's life so that they could have drama too and these people are in their 50's. Late 40's at the time. They raised her so wrong and even when they should be mature adults they still failed her because they loved the drama too much. How stupid is that??

            I could tell you so much shit these people have done, you'd be sick. I didn't know how bad the parents were at first, they were actually pretty good at hiding it and keeping up appearances. I hate to admit that they did fool me for as long as they did, hopefully it was just due to the fact that I only actually saw them in person a few times before I found out the realness.

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            • NeuroNeptunian
              11 years ago

              I knew I'd get at least one or two good storied from this post XD

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            • [Old Memory]
              11 years ago

              Yikes. My in-laws are unpleasant, but nothing like that!

              I was lucky to be able to cut all ties with that crazy woman. But even a year later, after zero contact, her husband found me and sent me a message on Facebook to tell me that his wife had just accused him of having an affair with me. He was beside himself with stress because there was nothing he could do to convince her otherwise. I wasn't even friends with her husband, he just sold me some pot now and then. And I was happily married at the time and not at all interested in her unemployed sloth of a spouse. She is a crazy bitch.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    Well, yeah, if it's drama that can be controlled. If it's something tragic or beyond control, I think people have a right to complain.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      Haha, of course, but I was not referring to tragedy. I know a guy who has two twin sisters, both with Downs Syndrome, and he is the one who has to care for them, they cause quite a bit if drama... I feel that he has every right to complain XD

      But in cases in which the drama could be easily controlled by... not associating with "those" people, I see that, in often cases, it's just brought upon oneself =/

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I find it irritating when people do this. They act as if their life is the hardest but it is them that are putting themselves in the situations to make it that way, when all they need to do is walk away from it all which is easy.

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  • buttons
    11 years ago

    no ones perfect, including you.

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  • spectroscopi
    11 years ago

    I get so sick of those people.

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  • chicken_wings
    11 years ago

    bitches

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  • Almostreal
    11 years ago

    I know a couple of people just like this. I suspect it's a problem called "Hystrionic Personality Disorder" There is no cure. These people are manipulative ( usually not very subtle about it.) and destructive. Don't bother trying to change them. It won't help. The only way to get rid of them is to bore them. If you don't feed their neurosis they may just leave you alone.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      I have heard of that. In fact, one of the people that I know that are like this is a clinically diagnosed sociopath. I don't know about going to the extreme of suspicion that it is a personality disorder, but I'm sure if I put on my thinking cap and looked around it'd be pretty evident =/

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  • kingsleycrowne
    11 years ago

    peace love and empathy dude.

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  • missy18
    11 years ago

    I hate this so much, what you say is true. and it's sooo annoying when people complain about it when they bring it on themselves

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