Is it normal that once i start to date someone, i start to lose feelings?

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Hello, all. Well, I've been in 4 relationships in my whole life (yes, I'm in a relationship everytime the moon is purple) and none of them has lasted up to 3 months. I believe my longest one was 2 1/2. I've broken up with everyone I've been with (except my last relationship, but I did kind of push him to do it), most of were immature anyway.

I go through these moments (before and after I start dating exclusively) where I guess my mind just freaks out about the whole thing. Do I really like this person? Stuff like that. I tend to doom relationships in general sometimes... I'll go into them "knowing" that they won't last, or I look for the worst, wait for the guy to make a mistake (like cheating or something). And then, after we finally get together, they just seem to annoy me & I question whether I like them even more, or I just want my space and to be single again. But when I'm single... I want a relationship. I tend to push people away. I don't know why.

I'm seeing this guy here at my school, and he actually seems so sweet an mature (different from most of my exes). I don't want to get with him, and end up getting hurt, but I don't want to hurt him either by losing interest. I want a relationship over 3 months, a companion, a best friend, lover, all that cute stuff. Am I afraid to be vulnerable? Afaid of committment? Is this normal?

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    You are over-thinking it, moving to fast, expecting too much and not enough. Relax.

    Be more picky about who you get involved with. Make sure they are worth it. Make a list of pros vs. cons about any guy who's relationship material. Just never let them or anyone else see it! Once you have picked a lucky guy you think is worthy (looks like you've got one in mind too), go with the flow. Have a good time. Stop questioning it and just experience it. Once you relax and enjoy the journey, you'll have far better experiences. Yeh, people get hurt when they love other people, but that doesn't stop people from doing it because it's almost always worth it. Love is love.

    You appear to want what a good relationship has to offer, but you are getting in your own way. I suggest you get out of it.

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    I think your just afraid in general. And you seem to be going about things very formally. Go with the flow and just don't force anything. Things will happen for you in the natural way.

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    This might sound a little odd, but I compare this to fishing, you have to catch a whole bunch of little ones before you land the trophy fish. Sounds to me like you just throwing the small ones back until you find that trophy. Just relax and go with the flow.

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    dating is for chumps.

    hanging out...now that's where it's at!

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    I do that too XD

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    I have a friend that's alot like this. I know what it's like to want to be in a relationship, and I know what it's like to get annoyed of a guy and want to break up. The thing that really makes a relationship last is to break the chain. You get in a relationship, he does something that annoys you and you want to break up, but you don't. You fight through it.

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  • Fallout-101
    12 years ago

    I totally understand what you mean, except i'm in my second relationship, my first was 4 months ago which lasted 4 years, she got bored...but i did have a phase during the 3 years and i told her i didn't love her anymore... but i realised what i did but we patched it up..for another year anyway. Just don't over think it.

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  • hoping4best
    12 years ago

    Haha..mine never works past 5 months! NEVER. :) so babe..that is normal in my book.

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    • XxBlackSheepxX
      12 years ago

      is it because it takes that long to get a restraining order?

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  • Garglemysac
    12 years ago

    I've been know to scream get out during climax, so yeah its normal.

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