Is it normal that now he is texting me?

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This guy thinks he can play around with me but no...unless I'm wrong. We have lived in the same apartment complex (not the same room) for a year and he never hit me up as much as he is now. He's living in a new apt by himself, isolated from the rest, his roommate will come later. So he's been hitting me up to hang out and come see him, almost sounding desperate like he feels lonely and he knows that I always want to see him. So is he using me? Does he really miss me? Or because he is isolated right now and has nothing much to do, he has no choice but to chill with me? It just means he doesn't really miss me, it just means he is lonely and I'm the only he can rely on to chill with. I feel so conflicted because of course he knows I love being with him but my instincts are telling me he doesn't really miss me or wanna see me, it's just that he is lonely and has no other choice. Kind of a bummer because I would have loved him to hit me up this many times when we were living in the same apt. And I just can't enjoy the fact that he is doing this until now because its not genuine. So does he really miss me or not?

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  • Crvsades
    9 years ago

    Oh for God's sake! People always have reasons for wanting to see someone else. Stop being so skeptical. I don't understand this mentality of some people who want other people to be completely altruistic and to not care about their own needs at all. Of course they're gonna think about their own desires too. That doesn't mean the person who they want to spend time with is insignificant to them.You women want to be the center of everyone's universe. God forbid the guy will consider his own feelings and needs as a part of the equation. Cause it has to be all about you isn't it?

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    • mountain-man82
      9 years ago

      Finally!!! That was well said! And it could also be combination of both that he is lonely and that he wants to see you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Lol this was actually hilarious to read ! It was so straight up and something I needed especially a guys perspective. I mean I can sort of relate to this. I've asked someone to chill when I was lonely but I did choose that person because regardless I enjoy their company. But ugh I'm still a little conflicted. I feel like guys do have the nerve to use someone for company even if its someone they rather not hang out with but since they're the only one who will say yes to hang out, the guy will call them up. Its so annoying

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    9 years ago

    Babe don't overthink it. Just go hang out with him... If he's nice and you like him, let him have some pussy. Too many girls act like they have a chastity belt on. I started talking to this hot guy at mt job and it's basically just a sexual thing. I made it pretty obvious he's gonna get some when we hang out.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    I think you are over analyzing this situation, maybe he just wanna get in your pants

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  • Sog
    9 years ago

    The sweetest revenge for his attempt to hang out with you while he's lonely is to completely ignore him. That'll show him.

    You deserve better than this. Make sure the next guy only just barely appreciates your company and mostly takes you for granted while he divides his time evenly between you and his five best bros. That way you'll never have this problem again.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Are you a girl or a guy? It matters cause if its a guy then okay I'll feel more satisfied that he is using me since this is coming from a another gys perspective and it can go either way. If you're a girl then you must feel my pain and frustration and understand me. Like I said I'm still conflicted. He does seem lonely when I went to see him and now I have more things to do than him, the tables have flipped. So I'm running around and he's trying to get everything together. To be honest , I feel kinda bad for him like I know he's using me but I'll hang out with him because I don't want him to feel lonely. After all, I love him so I care about him. But its still a pretty big bummer that NOW he wants to hang out with me when he's alone. Ugh

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      • Sog
        9 years ago

        I'm a guy, and I'm being very sarcastic.

        It's absurd that you'd be bothered by a guy seeking your company when he's lonely. And that him reaching out to you is some how him "using" you. You mean you'd rather have him call you when he's disinterested and busy with other people?

        He's lonely and wants to be with you. So what? What's wrong with that? You should be flattered that you're on his short list to call and not someone else, especially if you're genuinely interested in the guy.

        If you were lonely and had called him, I'm sure you'd be happy to have him come over.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Idk...I'm 50/50. So far I've been hanging out with him but not giving it my all like I used to because he never put this much effort until now that he is lonely. Idk how genuine it is. But at the same time, yeah I'm happy to see a different side of him. He's putting so much effort and showing he cares because like they say, you don't realize what you have until its gone. And thats what he realized. Kind of sweet.

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  • Faceless
    9 years ago

    coz your a slut thats why.

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