Is it normal that my wife doesn't give head

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I have been married for more than 15 years with my wife and I love her. We have good sex but she never really gave me a blow job. She sometimes swallow my penis for a short time before penetration but never made it to the end. She says she has a small mouth (true) for a big dick (false, I think I have an average size) so she can't do it to the end, also saying I take a long time to ejaculate. Is it normal? Should I insist or "force" her?
I wouldn't like to go to another girl to get it, I don't want to cheat on my wife.

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  • lilquiche
    5 years ago

    Be patient with her, talk to her about it, but in the end, if she doesn't want to give you a blowjob that's her decision and you need to respect it. She is not entitled to do anything for you sexually, and if you try to force it you may end up getting less sex with her or none at all.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Do you ever watch porn together? She might get ideas on techniques to handle things better.
    I do have to add that you seem surprised about this...15 years later.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Yes, we sometimes watch porn together, but most of it is disgusting regarding blow jobs, with the man pushing the head of the woman so that the dick enters deeply into the throat and the woman can't breathe and almost throws up... This is definitely not what I am looking for. But I will look for soft porn, hoping I can find a woman who tenderly uses her mouth and hand to give pleasure to her partner.
      I am not surprised after 15 years with my wife, it is just that it took me 15 years to discover is web site :)

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    Try it with a condom. She probably doesn't like the taste or the feel of cum in her mouth.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      It might be a good idea, but I am sure she hates the taste of condom :)
      I think the best solution is to avoid ejaculating in her mouse, I can do this.

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    Honestly, it can be hard on the jaw for some women who don't know how to give a blowjob. Imagine sucking something vigorously for 15 minutes waiting for a guy to cum.

    Teach her slowly how to masturbate you into her mouth while kissing and licking your dick, with the occasional full mouth treatment. Then slowly work on it together.

    If she is into working with you, which if she watches porn with you, she probably is, make it a challenge and have fun.

    Don't push to hard though.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      You are absolutely right. RavenStarr was asking for the reasons (below), you understood them well. Yes, I can imagine how difficult it can be to suck something for 15 minutes without interruption. You are right, we should work on it together and find the best way to do it softly, good advice.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    If it is important for you, talk to her about it as this is one of your fantasies you'd like to happen and then happen more. Propose that you do something in return.

    There are techniques when she can use hands more so that you ejaculate faster.

    But in the end of she doesn't want to do it, don't force her, and shut up about "going to another girl". What does that lead you to? Either an emotionally manipulated wife or a rightful divorce. Do you even love your wife? Or love her more than your cock?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Of course I love my wife, of course she is more important than my cock. Maybe I shouldn't write that I would go to another girl, because anyway I will never do it. It is just a way of saying I regret that the woman I love, and who loves me too, doesn't do what so many women do...

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        I understand that you wrote these in frustration.

        Yeah. Communication is key. Try and have a talk with her on the topic, an honest conversation. Tell her how you long for this and let her know that you won't go somewhere else to get it, but you'd like her to know how important this is for you and how good it feels. Don't use threats, don't try forcing, just say how you feel. And if she agrees to do it for you, have a plan together to ease her into it. Using her hands to not take forever to ejaculate. It's not like the best blowjobs are when women take it in their mouths and just suckl for 15 minutes. It feels better when it's now creative with hand, mouth and whatever else work together. Good luck

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  • Nickvey
    5 years ago

    my first had an oral aversion to sperm. the only time i did pop in her mouth she ran to the bathroom and i had to claim i had an accident. so you wont be getting the finish line with your wife involved. some of the ladies are just wired that way. as long as a man is sensible about buying the service i see no harm when the wife is unable to perform such a benign and simple task. Taste you own juice and see for yourself that its better than pussy even on pussys best day. the guilt you carry is not deserved so set it free.

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  • RavenStarr
    5 years ago

    Hey, some girls like giving head, some don't. The worst thing you could do is force her

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    • thighlicker1
      5 years ago

      my lady didn't like to suck my dick at first,but when I licked her pussy and gave her fantastic orgassams,she started sucking my bare dick till I came in her mouth. now we both suck each other a lot.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        5 years ago

        It is different for us because I don't mind licking her pussy, i can even say I like it and I do it often. On the other hand, I can't say she doesn't like licking my dick, she does it. The problem is that she does it for a short time, just to turn me on and give me a boner before penetration, but never does it to the end.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Yes, I know. I should have wrote "convince" instead of "force". I mean that maybe I should talk with her and try to convince her this is something I need, this is something normal many women do. I would like to use the threat like "if you don't do it, another girl will do", but it wouldn't work. She would feel offended and anyway, we both know I would never do this.
      She doesn't mind having my dick in her mouth just like I don't mind eating her pussy (I like it), but she can't do it long enough for ejaculation. Maybe I am too slow to get to the end...

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      • RavenStarr
        5 years ago

        Talk to her about it. Ask about her reasons.

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  • CDmale4fem
    5 years ago

    So, you now know. Before you buy a car, you should ALWAYS take them for a test drive, for more than a few miles. Maybe like a cross country trip. (So to speak). Well now, there is always (depending on how bad you want a bj) there is the art of autofellatio. As far as your wife goes. It's kinda late to rewrite your rental agreement now that you have been the tenant as long as you have. But it is like a guys big thing is to get a blowing now and then at leAst so he can remember what it's like. But hey, at least you have another person there with you when you have sex. I can't remember that luxury. Count the blessings you have, be thankful you have someone that loves you and is still with you. (Especially if you ask her about he's alot.) You could get penis reduction.?

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