Is it normal that my step daughter wants to be more with me than her mom?

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I live with my couple and her daughter since more than a year ago, since I got separated with my ex wife I have also a little princess of 11yo, the thing here is that shes away and her mom dont want me to see her, So I technically adopted my gf daughter, since the very beginning we perfectly match in many things, she started to call me dad and say that she love me and I of course I give all that feelings back. Her mother, my gf has a really hard to handle temper, she's one of that explosive persons that can be normal one moment and at the next second change radically and star yelling and breaking things, lately she punch her in the face, so I tell her that whatever she may do beating her is not the solution, and even more in the head. Well lets say that all of this time I have been like protecting this little baby girl of 10yo, our relationship as dad and daughter is getting bigger everytime and we have come to the point to make a team appart from her mom, I have talked with her and ask her please to adjust her temper and neurosis so we can stay in harmony, but she insist that we are the ones who cause her alterations, when is not truth cause she fights or argues with a ot of people whe we go out to the movies of take a roll to the shopping mall.

There is no day of going out that she avoid arging with someone. At this poing she feels so frustrating that she have told to her daugther that is she want to stay with me is ok, that she will leave (dont know how true would this be).

Well she baby princess feel safe with me and shes convinced that she dont want to stay close to her mom. Thats ok, but Im afraid to have any consecuence cause no matter what Im just the step father.

But how can we be close to a person that acts like that, verbally and physically?

I dont know what to do. Yesterday she told her daughter that if she keeps thinking or acting like that she will leave us and then go to another country.

So I dont know what exactly do. I definitely can support her by myself.

IS IT NORMAL THAT I PROTECT MY STEP DAUGHTER FROM HER MOM?
IS IT NORMAL THAT SHE FEEL MORE PROTECTED WITH ME?

I will really appreciate your opinion and advice cause I dont know if Im doing right, this little girls is so affraid of her mom.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    You keep hitting the caps lock button.

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  • Cats
    9 years ago

    Yes it's normal and you should protect and care for the child as if she were your own. A family therapist might be helpful - even if it's just you and your stepdaughter (if the mother is unwilling to attend)

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  • JustARandomNerd
    9 years ago

    Can't read too clumpy. But sounds like she needs to see a shrink

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  • SHAKEStheClown
    9 years ago

    Damn.

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  • 1badassog&AA
    9 years ago

    I know of some cases here in the US where the bi-polar mother actually allowed their daughter to stay with the almost adopted dad. See if mom will grant you the custody. If you can adopt the girl then do. Good luck

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    Im going to be the bad guy here. She is not your child. Her mother can take her away at anytime. Her mother can use her to hurt you at any time. Are you prepared to have this child's mother in your life for the next 8 years?. As fucked up as this sounds if the mother is as bad as you claim she is I only see this ending in heartbreak for you and this child.

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