Is it normal that my step dad used to pay me money for spending time with him?
Between the ages 7 and 13, my step dad often used to ask me to sit on his lap talk with him about various stuff. Usually he would ask about boys, like if there were any that I liked at school, what kind of boys I liked, and what I'd want to do with a boy. While we would talk, he would stroke my legs with one hand with his other hand on my hips or bottom. Sometimes he would say I was a pretty girl and kiss me on both of my cheeks. After we would finish talking, he would give me some money for school, and as I would be about to leave, he would sometimes slap my bottom.
I always thought it was nice and friendly behaviour and that everyone's relatives were like that. However, by the time I was 14, I started feeling very uncomfortable when he would do that, so I started avoiding him and he stopped talking to me and giving me money. Now I realise he that what he used to do could probably be considered as abuse, and that maybe he was giving me money as an encouragement to make me come back to him sooner so he could do it again? So, is that abuse? Is it normal that he used to do that?