Is it normal that my partner is not attractive to me?

It’s only shallow if your standards are unrealistically high which isn’t the case here. Also the fact that he hid what he really looked like from you is borderline catfishing.

You can’t force attraction, if you’re not feeling it you’re not feeling it.

Then you shouldnt be with him probably. I have been attracted to guys I dont really find physically attractive before because attraction is sometimes deeper than that and in turn you start to think they are good looking even though you didnt. But guys ive felt the way you describe for are friends of mine and that has never changed. They are amazing but there is no attraction never has been never will be.

Maybe you are closet lesbian which is fine. You feel romantically linked to the dude but maybe prefer female body. I don't find male body attractive either, because I am a lesbian.

Now do I have a similar experience? I am taking this opportunity to post my life experience here since it won't get approved, I know this will all sound unbelievable because of all the non sense written here, but this is 100 % true,

This happened 9 years ago between me and my sister. I was 14 and she was 16. We were both good looking and had a number of boys chasing us, sis even dated a guy, her first and only relation up to then for 2 months before breaking up, I never entered into relations yet. Both our parents would be working and were mostly away on business trips, it was always just us at home after we returned from school. It was a small house, we shared the same room. This new found freedom lead to us doing a lot of stuff we normally could never get away with. We drank beers, we smoked and we watched porn on the internet. I had seen porn on kids phones at school before but this was the first time I really watched it and the whole thing was quite overwhelming.

Initially still fixated on what we were watching, I slid my hand into my pants and started taking care of myself. At some point, she looked at me and saw what I was doing and just smiled a little then went back to watching the video.

For some stupid reason, I decided that my sister smiling at me in a completely non-seductive way was a sign that seeing me fingering myself turned her on. So I started to do my poor impersonation of what I thought was dirty talk to her. Stuff like ‘this porno is so sexy, watching it makes me all horny and sexed-up’.

She just laughed and said ‘You need to get laid’. Out of nowhere, I thought it would be a good idea to basically pounce on her and start groping her chest and trying to put my finger (the one that had just been inside me) into her mouth at which point she pushed me away and said ‘What the fuck are you doing?’

Still completely dead-set on raping my own sister (not that I would’ve described it as such at the time) I managed to pull down her PJ pants and climb on top of her, although I didn’t really do anything after that other than stare her in the face while laying on her. She said nothing and just gave me a confused look. After probably about 30 seconds the awkwardness set in and I rolled off her. She turned off the porn that was playing on her computer and put on a youtube video instead and then eventually we just went to sleep.

But I couldnt sleep, a wild desire had set in me like never before, i no longer saw her as a sister but an angel that I just kept wanting to get close to. I got down from my bed and slowly pulled off her pants again and slowly started massaging and kissing her legs and final my tongues settled in her private, it was pleasure I never personally experienced before but only saw in the porn videos. But she woke up at that moment and freaked out. I kept apologizing and lying that I had a drink before going to bed and was too confused. She was always sort of motherly to me and believed me. She said that she didn’t really think of it as a rape attempt either and just put it down to me being a confused teenager who had never experienced proper sex education. But a devil had possessed me and I didnt want to give up. Our parents werent returning until four more days and I had time to execute my new plan.

Next day after coming home from each other's school we were joking around randomly. She was slightly shocked by yesterday's incident, though she didnt want to give away her feelings, I just could tell and wanted to lay low, no drinks or porns that day. But I insisted on the drinks and I mixed sleeping pills on hers and while chatting and giggling about random stuffs she fell asleep on the couch. I then undressed her and begun massaging and sucking her whole body. I kept sniffing her beautiful long hair, which I was always kinda jelous of. I licked every inch of her. I fingered her pussy, licked it like there was no tomorrow. I laid over her my pussy touching her pussy , my legs going up and down over her legs, and my breast touching hers and humped over her. I was so aroused , i put my pussy over her right foot and humped up and down experiencing heavenly orgasm that I never experienced before or ever again. Finally I was tired, rolled from top of her, and went to sleep giving her a kiss on her cheek.

I woke up maybe a few hours later to a loud shriek. My sister was up naked, her eyes filled with tears, looking me with contempt and revulsion, her look of sisterly affection totally gone. I felt guilty, ashamed and wanted to apologies but I could not speak a word. She slapped m hard , then threw me out of the bed, along with my clothes screamed at me to get out of the room. I did and she locked it and dint come out until I left to school next morning. After returning she opened the door for me and told me that we can no longer share the same room and to share my parents room until they got back. I obliged. We didnt speak to each other and she kept avoiding me after that. After my parents came back she convinced them to let her move out to grandma's house and within a week she made the move. She didnt even say bye to me, and we barely ever see each other or even get to talk since then. Its been nine years since, today she is married for two years and has a daughter, i was not even invited to her wedding. I came out as lesbian by the time I had gone to college, had three girl friends up to present, sharing house with my current, even she doesn't know about this. I forever feel guilty and will never forgive myself for killing off my relationship with my sister, I feel like an unworthy animal whenever i think of it now and shed tears at the thought how much she hates me now. But ever since then I had many sexual experiences and I have never had a more wonderful experience ever than that day I made love to my unconscious sister and I would give everything I have away just to not only be her sister again but also her lover.

This is my first and only comment here, I shared my true life experience believe it or not, I just felt like letting it out after all these years, and found the perfect website for doing so. You won't see me around here ever again though and no matter what my sister feels today my love for my sister will never die as long as I live.

Caring about looks is fine. Cause every women should look out for good genes. You dont want ugly kids that will be unhappy, without love and suicidal. Look for hot guy!

Sounds more like a friendship/ love than a boyfriend / romance .

How can you not like his body when you havent even seen it?