Is it normal that my parents literally never said anything about sex?

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They literally never said anything to me about it, good or bad. It's like they wanted to pretend it didn't exist. Even hyper-conservative hardcore religious zealots probably say something, even if it turns out to be threats not to do it or something. And shouldn't sex-positive people want to at least be sure a teenager knows things so they don't make a big mistake like pregnancy or STDs? I've only recently found out that they're actually very traditional and conservative, but that's only because I've been able to infer it based on several semi-related arguments I've had with them. With that in mind, it surprises me that they didn't even say anything like "Don't have sex, you're not supposed to." Or did they just think "Meh, it's not like girls will want him anyway, so no need to bother with it"? Hell, when a parent yells at their daughter that they'll throw her out if she gets pregnant or something, it at least carries the implication that they know their daughter is good-looking enough for people to want her.

Or are they just in severe denial, or maybe they themselves never got comfortable with sex and so can't deal with it?

I've been told that my father was very worried he'd have a daughter, because apparently he wasn't prepared to deal with the HORRIFYING prospect (to him, anyway) of someone wanting to have sex with his daughter. I don't think that's a good sign. On the other hand, I'm convinced my mother never got over the fact that she never had any daughters, and now she's hoping I'll get married so she can treat the girl as a surrogate daughter. Can you tell I don't like either of them very much?

So, what do you guys think is going on here?

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    I walked in on my mother having sex with a stranger, how's she supposed to explain that shit to me.

    Oh, BTW I was 6.

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      Sadly, that explains a lot.

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      • handsignals
        9 years ago

        I also did child porn when I was 4.

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        • RoseIsabella
          9 years ago

          So whatever became of your deranged, perverted and abusive parents?

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          • handsignals
            9 years ago

            I did the child porn with a woman at a day care centre, her husband took photo's.

            My Dad was an alcoholic, he left when I was 6. I would say my mum is starting to develop dementia, her behaviour and absent mindedness is very gradually getting worse.

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  • modernism
    9 years ago

    It's normal. My parents never introduced me to sex, but they insist they did. Perverted classmates and the internet is a bad combo for a kid. But I'll just give them them satisfaction of thinking they told me.

    But from there, my parents did warn me about it. My dad was like that too (about the daughter thing) but now that he has me, he's just extremely over-protective.

    Some parents are just scared to tell their kid about. They want them to know, but don't want the awkward conversation. I'd say it's best for parents to tell their child a little early on - just so they don't find out in different... ways. But as long as you know, I wouldn't worry about it. Your parents aren't odd - probably just scared.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Your parents sound really repressed. Are they WASPs?

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    • gx111
      9 years ago

      Yes they are. My mother also watches TV preachers all the time. She knows I'm upset at not having an adventurous sex life and she had the fucking nerve to tell me that "Maybe God doesn't want you to be promiscuous." I'll tell you this: even if God himself actually appeared to me and said that's what he wanted, I'd tell him to go fuck himself. I'd rather not exist than have some puppetmaster control me like that.

      I hate that woman. I know she's being tested for breast cancer. A strong part of me hopes she has cancer, gets a double mastectomy, and then has someone tell her that that was God's plan, so she shouldn't be upset. See how she fucking likes it.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        So are your Mom and Dad Fundamentalists?

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        • gx111
          9 years ago

          I don't think so. They vote Democrat as far as I know. I'm pretty sure they aren't biblical literalists. They just seem very uptight/nervous/conservative about sex.

          Between the two of them, my mother is definitely the more religious one. She's the one who fills the DVR with TV preachers.

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            I can't stand most televangelists. My condolences to you. Be true to yourself.

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            • gx111
              9 years ago

              My father isn't much better either. See, I'm a bit genderqueer, especially in matters of sexuality. My father's response to this is to either call me crazy or ask if I want a sex change. Either that or he'll just say "I've never heard of someone like you" as if that has absolutely any bearing on anything. One time he asked "Are you a fucking faggot?" with a tone of voice that suggested he'd be very upset if I was.

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    My parents are conservative and they never talked to me about sex or pregnancy either. I turned out okay.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      Yea.... U turned out mighty fine >:D

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    My mom asked me if I needed the sex talk and I told her no and told her I wasnt going to have sex for a long time.
    and 5 years later I had sex for the first time at age 18 :P

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