Is it normal that my long-term female neighbor wouldn't respond at all?
OK just out of high school I won a trip to Europe as a reward for good grades and college acceptance, and coincidentally my female neighbor in HS three houses down had been given a graduation present of a tour to Europe, and just by accident we met at the hotel we had both been staying at, although we were not on the same tour, and actually neither of us knew the other was in Europe.
I need to back up a bit: at my HS in none of the classes I took was there ever another female I had been to previous grades with - I honestly believe the school was doing a science experiment to force us to meet all brand-new women, as there were only three schools that fed into this HS, so the probability of having four entire years of classes where I knew no previous women is statistically impossible. (This still galls me to this day, as I am slightly shy and had a kind of inferiority complex from about 15 until about 22).
Anyway, back to the story. I had always thought this neighbor was attractive, but had never said anything, as her sisters and my sisters were really close and I felt like it would be intruding on a chick thing, what with the six of them always going around together; oddly enough I had never set foot in their house - I am not the sort to invite myself, I think it's gauche and uncivilized.
Anyway, back in Europe: so I invited the woman to my hotel room in broad daylight (and told her I only had ten minutes so she wouldn't think any funny business would be attempted) and I began saying: "X, you know, I never told you this, but I like you and was thinking about asking you out but I never saw you at HS school, so I didn't know the right way to go about finding a legitimate and non-awkward way to go about asking."
To which she said: "Y, you will never learn." and I said: "What won't I learn?" dead silence. I asked again, even pleading with her to help me, that if there was some flaw in my character she, a neighbor, should be decent and let me know about it. Nope.
Fast-forward to that evening, where this chick and I find ourselves at the same club (our tours had arranged us to go there on he same night, unbeknownst to us). I saw her dancing with this local guy, enjoying herself, obviously noticing me, but not paying attention. I asked to cut in, and she said no.
Is this normal??? Is she typical??? Could there there something about me that she (and perhaps others) could see that I have no clue about? Rumors?