Is it normal that my long distance mate doesn't want to meet with me again?

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I have a boyfriend... he lives in another continent... He says he loves me and that he misses me, and all those kind of things.

However, as soon as I ask him: "when and where will we meet again?", he acts like a bastard and tells me that I am putting too much pressure, that he doesnt know what to do with his life and that he cant be planning those things... and later he always says that we will meet "if we have the chance".

Well... what is that supposed to mean? If we love each other, shouldn't we actually make the effort to meet again?

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  • groman
    13 years ago

    Don't be THAT girl. Stay friends with him but go out and date guys who live at least in the same time zone. If you meet up again someday great if not than life goes on, I promise. Not to be brutally honest but of he acts that way to you, you don't mean as much to him (dispite his words, all about actions) as much as he means to you.

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    • ucipher8
      11 years ago

      I agree with groman. Long distance relationships are tests made to break or make a relationship, but from a guys point of view... If you left him, to go off on your own devices then it clearly means you want to be left to your own devices.

      Its almost as if you are keeping him committed to you as a "long distance" relationship so that you can always have a "bailout" package.

      I love my, woman to death (wherever she is) but if she needs to test how committed i am, either she doesn't trust me or she's the one that needs to be trusted. Im single and have been for so long because women play too many games. Sometimes i wish i was gay

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  • Sabaky
    13 years ago

    He probably isnt who he says he is

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    personally i wouldnt wait for him to make up his mind. it kind of sounds like he is using you for something on the side. i agree 100% with groman.

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  • KrunkFu
    13 years ago

    question should be "IIN to have a mate in another continent?"... unless your mate is a mail order bride, no. long distance relationships are just silly. you have millions of people that live close to you, and the chances of one of those million are a better match are VERY VERY high. why cause drama and problems over the phone when you can have a real relationship?

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  • iowagirl3
    13 years ago

    I understand why you're upset but you also can't be selfish about it because he is trying to get his masters. Sorry that everything is so frustrating! :(

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    It has been a few months since we got apart. I truly love him... and I do see a future with him and he claims he sees a future with me too.

    But he is doing a master right now, and afterwards he will find a job. He seems to be more focused on that rather than me. This is supposed to be "serious"... yet... he doesnt want to make any plans with me...

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    • I-Wish-BJo-Was-My_Sister
      11 years ago

      even though this was posted two years ago do u have a bf and if not u want 1 i live far probably but id try very hard to see you and never stop trying

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  • iowagirl3
    13 years ago

    I can't relate at all but I am sorry that you're going through this! How long has it been going on? Do you see a future with this guy or do you just like the way things with you & this guy are going? Like, long distance & being faithful to someone across the world.

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