Is it normal that my husband watches porn and ignores me during foreplay?

My husband and I are in our early 40s and we have always had an intense sex life. Lately, he has been hurting my feelings and I don't know if I am overreacting or if he is being insensitive. We can be naked and fooling around, but after 10 minutes or so, he starts to completely ignore me. He goes on his laptop and finds some excuse like, "Oh, there's this porn video I want to show you but I can't remember where I saw it" and he will stay on the computer for HOURS. Of course, he never finds the mysterious video. I think it's a cop out. I can be naked right next to him and he doesn't expect me to get angry? I can't talk to him about it because every time I bring it up, he says, "Oh, here we go," like I am a broken record and I won't stop bitching. Is it normal for him to "take a break" (as he calls it) in the middle of having sex with me to watch hours of porn on the computer? I feel like I'm acting like a child when I pout and tell him to pay attention to me, because I shouldn't have to ask. Should I act like it's no big deal or should I insist that he stop acting this way?

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Based on 41 votes (7 yes)
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  • Digsbie

    I don't know if his behavior is normal or not but know porn can be very addictive. I personally can not imagine choosing watching porn instead of doing the real action. If you can not talk to him about it, sounds like trouble already. Best of luck and take care.

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  • IMissMary

    Porn dulls your senses to regular sex. He needs to cut back or stop completely.

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    • Ellenna

      I agree: he's addicted but the issue is he may never cut back or stop and like all addicts will hurt other people because the addiction always comes first.

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  • Vibedj

    Sorry for your situation. Maybe you guys should try different things and try What he finds interesting and also give some of your ideas about it and keep it interesting and enjoy it

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  • angellduvall

    My theory is that he's addicted to some taboo porn and u may not be turning him on anymore. I don't mean to hurt your feelings with the way I say that because I'm not saying it's your fault. From the info you've shared, he's probably gotten turned on by something u would deem weird, but now it could be almost the only thing that gets him off.

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    • Ignored

      I think you hit the nail on the head!

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  • SiliconChip

    Try being a bit more risque'. When he comes home and changes into his non-work clothes, get on your knees in something sexy (not pretty... sexy... (slutty)). Tell him that you have been horny all day. Can you p-l-e-a-s-e- suck his cock...
    Try that. Then lay on the couch while he watches his porn (but where he can see you), say nothing, masturbate until you finish, lick your finger, and walk away (do that every time he is watching porn.
    Walk up to him and quietly tell him that you want him to "fuck" you. Tell him - "take me in the ass".
    It sounds crude - but it shakes him up and will turn him on.
    If that doesn't work - tell him that you want him to bring a friend home to help him fuck you - "Just like in his movies". That might get some response...

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    • Ignored

      Believe it or not, I have done variations on all those things (we've even done live webcam stuff) so he is not lacking in the "excitement" department. I don't know what else to do!

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