Is it normal that my husband lost his job and it makes me feel like i'm a loser

Is it normal that my husband lost his job and it makes me feel like I'm a loser? I don't know why, but when he had his job it made me feel pride and now I feel so depressed and like a loser. I know that's horrible. I love him, but you know Americans always ask what you do. It's so shameful to have you to say you or your spouse is unemployed and people judge. :(. Is it normal that I'm feeling all these feelings?

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Based on 22 votes (14 yes)
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Comments ( 16 )
  • Be supporting of him, be his inspiration. Be there for him.

    It doesn't get any simpler than that.

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    • I'm trying this is just my inner turmoil I'm sharing.

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  • dinz

    Now you got to put yourself in his shoes and think how he feels. Imagine the feeling he has when he can't bring food to the table. Now try adding the fact his own family is embarrassed because he lost his job. Not nice huh?

    In regards to people asking - there is no shame saying he is unemployed. It is a sad fact that a large sector of our workforce has been laid off so he isn't alone. The best thing you can do is be supportive of him regardless of the situation.

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    • I didn't say it was nice. I was expressing my honest feelings right or wrong. We are fine financially still.

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  • thegypsysailor

    Your self worth should not be dependent on what others think.
    In this economy, your husband is not unique and the loss of his job probably not his fault.
    Fuck those who judge you an such a trivial and temporary thing.

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    • Thanks, you're right.

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  • Freedom_

    He likely feels like a loser as well. Maybe you're being empathetic?

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  • ibs

    you were unemployed before, you're unemployed now... what's the difference?

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  • Fall_leaves

    Support him, you committed to the marriage and to him, be there to protect and guide him.

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    • I am trying, just feeling this on inside... sharing here instead of out loud.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    I'll say normal. This sort of reminds me of one of my parents. They seem to feel like a loser because their daughter(Me) doesn't have a job as a lawyer, engineer, scientist, or any of those other high paying jobs society expects everyone to have.

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    • Cliche1234

      At least they have a cute daughter though. They should be proud about it at least.

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      • agree

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  • bdtttlera

    My uncle lost his job and he has depression, but idk what he's really feeling cause I've never asked, but the best you can do is support him if he's job less or has a job and just show alot of love and support because a man loves that from his family and will boost his self esteem,and idk but maybe he'll get the confidence to do something heroic and fight harder for himself

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  • RainbowDischarge

    Are you employed?

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    • Yes, and we're lucky we'll be okay for a while.

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