Is it normal that my husband gave me his ex's engagement ring for the proposal?

I'm not female but, if I was, I think I'd be incandescent with rage at his lack of thought. I don't want to cause problems in your marriage but this would colour my entire view of him as a person.

Rings, especially wedding and engagement rings, are very personal for obvious reasons, and he's shown no care whatsoever.

However, like anything else, give him the benefit of the doubt at first. See if there's an explanation or you've made a mistake.

It's a ring... Seriously.
They cost a fortune, and look practically identical, why should he care about changing it? Maybe he picked a design he liked: why should he has to return it after holding it, while asking some girl a question.
You accepted the proposal. If you're that sensitive about a ring of metal and silly stones, maybe there are worse problems in this relationship..

No where did I hear him lie about it, you never asked, why should he tell? It's irrelevant.
Exchange the ring if it's so important, but it really shouldn't be. If it's from someone you love, rusting shouldn't make you flinch.

Surely it's just a ring...? He did propose to you after all, sure he should have told you, but i think anger is an emotion a bit too 'over the top' for the situation. Rings do cost a stupid amount of money, and all marriage really is is a bit of paper claiming that you 'own' eachother. i respect his way of thinking on those grounds, i think you should talk to him about it.

honestly, that's awful.
i'd confront him. but seriously, you shouldn't have to wear a ring he gave his ex. it's just wrong.

He was supid for leaving the receipt laying around.

My ex fiance gave his new wife my engagement ring that I helped pay for. It makes me sick to my stomach and I am not even the one that was given the tainted ring. He not only has given it to her but a total of three other women besides myself. Just show's what type of person he is, I wouldn't want to look at something everyday that reminds them of someone else. I would feel betrayed and also not good enough for my own ring.

Oh, hell no! Lol... What he couldn't trade it in or sell it? Wtf? Lol

Lay off him! He was trying to save money by not buying a new ring!

Ok let's see you pull a few thousand dollars out of thin air to pay for a small peice of jewelry. If it's a nice ring then what else would he do with it? Keep it? That's a few thousand dollars wasted. I say get over it. It's a ring, you don't need it. He could've proposed without even using a ring.

Yeah he should have at least been honest with you and told you that it was originally for his ex.

*stupid*

He's a man and doesn't understand the sentimental value of a ring to you. Personally, I didn't even want an engagement ring before I got married coz I didn't see the point. In my marriage, my husband and I would be in fits of giggles if I caught him out on something. Your husband wasn't even trying to hide the receipt, mine tries to hide new motorbikes!!!

I'd say chill out girl and pray to God that this is the only thing you ever have to worry about in your relationship.

You like the ring so enjoy it and anyway no-one else knows it belonged to his ex, except us.

Cheap fuck! Didn't bring his ex or him any luck did it? Ask him if it is his ex''s ring and if he denies it show him the receipt. Tell him you don't want it.

Cheap! Dump his a**

Maybe he can't afford a new ring now. If he tried to sell the old one, maybe the place he took it to didn't offer a good price. Even now you can still go together and trade it in for a new ring or maybe even an antique ring.

i think you're heading for a new ring, as dappled said i would hear him out and also some men just don't understand, he might be a bit dumb and thinking he is clever that he is saving money. every one is dumb some time you both might laugh about it later on (as you are admiring your new ring)

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What if he got the ring just because he thought it was so beautiful (he didn't know who it would be for). Then, you show family your new ring and obviously they recognize it. After you are married, one day he says, "I'm glad we changed to a bigger stone in the center". Ummmmm, that wasn't me. That became the only thing I could think of, every time I look at it. It has nothing to do with spending on a new one, for me. It's the fact that it was given to someone else, and he sued to get it back. If I'm the great love of your life, you couldn't even pick out one specially for me? Petty, I don't know.

I know this an old post but I google this topic. I've been married 3 months. I had suspicions of the same thing. Come to find out...I'm right. I'm sick. It's a something we must look at everyday. With every look, we know. I love my ring but now I think, no, I love her ring. She never received it but she picked out rings she liked and he took those designs and & designed the mount and band. He picked the diamond out for me because it never had one till he decided to propose to me. It makes me insane to know this. I'm 39 and feel so selfish but I also feel like I deserve my own damn ring! Not the ring she picked! I'm so hurt and confused. He is honestly the sweetest person I know but this is just wrong to me. He makes plenty of money so he could've bought or been sweet enough to design me a damn ring!

Want to know what's worse? My ex-HUSBAND just proposed to his girlfriend with my old engagement ring, in the city where he and I got married and went to celebrate with her at the restaurant we had our rehearsal dinner!!

Wtf!

Most women would see that as extremely unromantic of him. And IT IS!!!

However, he probably didn't even think. Men can be surprisingly practical about that kind of stuff. They don't think like women. Dumb, I guess you'd call it :)

Question is, is he a good husband and does he love you? Only you know that.

Maybe he doesn't have enough money to buy you one but couldn't wait to propose because he's unconditionally in love with you.

Trade it in for a new one - make sure you get it engraved :)

If you have to ask, then you don't deserve an answer.

Should he have lied to you? No. Does it mean he's lying about other things? Probably. Are you acting petulent by being upset at a "second hand ring"? Yes. Should he have smelted it and had it recast with the same stones? Should he have thrown money away to appease your bratty sensitivites? Be upset about the lying; let the ring's history go.