Is it normal that my girlfriend is constantly negative?
Finally! A site to find out what's normal! All joking aside...
My girlfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years. I love her and she loves me. The problem is, she is pretty darn negative and tends to complain a lot. Now, I'm not trying to suggest I'm this happy-go-lucky, "let's play the glad game" guy all the time, but she's more negative than me. Sometimes I feel our relationship has a foundation of general negativity, and it's not really towards one another. Just in general. To use an analogy, life could be going wonderful for you, but imagine it was cloudy for three months straight. It'd probably put you in a funk.
Here's an example, she has a terrible self-image. Now, I know this is normal, but she absolutely hates herself. No joke. She cannot find any redeeming quality in how she looks even though she's very pretty and gets looked at an annoying amount. Also, little things set her off. The internet a little slow? Angry tirade!
I should note, we have fun. In fact, we often have great times and we legitimately enjoy being around one another. So,in everyone's collective opinion, is this normal? At times I feel like it's impacting our relationship, but I really don't want to make a rash decision. Does offering support ever become a crutch?
We are in our early 30s, so we have relationship experience. It's funny actually. One would think wisdom and experience would make relationship building easier, but in many ways it's every bit as difficult as ever.