Is it normal that my girlfriend choose to lock herself out from the outside world?

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Me and my girlfriend Christelle,aged 26 have been together for practically eight months. She's feeling awfully depressed due to multiple reasons, including low self esteem(she was raped at a young age and was overweight until 14), she suffers from nervous anorexia, PTSD, clinical depression among other pathologies.

She suffered alot in life and now it's mostly suffering from financial problems, even though she's an upper class mommy's girl, family issues haunt her and she has opted to seclude herself from the outside world, won't talk to her brother, mother or father and won't let me lend her a hand in the convalescence process.

She says she wants to be all by herself alone, but this has been going on for over four months now, we used to be very happy and she stayed whole weeks in my house. It's driving me crazy that she won't help me participate in her recovery. She only spurts words now and then saying how miserable she feels, how her entire life is ruined.

Our triple anniversary is coming up on 30th of August, she turns 27 and i turn 26 on the 31th, plus we accomplish eight months in our relationship in the 1st of September. I don't know what to do, I'd really like to come up over her parent's house and surprise her, but i don't know how will she take it. I gotta call her mother and plan it all out, plus she left tons of her personal stuff in my house, almost like she was planning on moving in for a whole month.

What do i do guys?

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  • radar
    6 years ago

    Did something happen four months ago?

    Is she seeing a therapist?

    I have no advice as to what you should do. It feels really good when you're down to have someone care, but it also feels as bad or possibly worse to think they're only there out of pity or guilt. I guess you can only do whatever is genuine and right for you. Please encourage her to find a therapist either way, and realize that you can't fix her. Trying to will only strain your relationship if not ruin it.

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    • LuxM4G
      6 years ago

      Thank you for your insight. She was seeing a therapist, a psychiatrist more specifically, been so since early adolescence, but she missed two appointments due to some unfortunate reasons and she hasn't been rescheduled ever since. It's been five months now, which coincides with her downfall.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    RUN. dont even look back.

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    • Kevinevan
      6 years ago

      What nick said.

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    • LuxM4G
      6 years ago

      Hahaha, i might just do that, thanks. But in the meantime i wanted to be able to lend her all the support she might need, though she constantly says no one can help her and that she doesn't want for her condition to be a burden for me.

      I know this is going to sound off like a joke, but we actually meet in a psychiatric warden, hahahaha well, it's a matter though to handle for sure. I would leave her be and drop her stuff at her house but it would be kind of negligent of me to do so. I really thought she was my soul mate until i found out she's a little bit bonkers.

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