Is it normal that my girlfreind wants time apart. but where still dating?

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My Girlfriend of 4 Years today told me wlshe didn't want to be with me. Right now she's under a lot of stress. We live an hour away from each other and really only see each twice a week. We very close to each other. We have a strong relationship . But today we wanted to be apart. But she said where still together just not in a relationship. She said she wanted to feel free and might want to go on a date with somebody. But she's isn't sure who or even if its going to happen. She told me she wasn't planning on having Sex or getting into any heavy kissing or touching. She seemed upset and hurt when I told her. If she does decide to have sex to use protection and be safe. It seems like she didn't want to and told me she didn't plan on heaving sex. So I trust that shell come back. She even told me where still together but things are rough. Its just confusing. I feel she wants to to just be a Friend. She isn't in the state to be dating anybody. She said she still want to marry me, and wants to move in with me. Shlosten said our anniversary is going to be celebrated! Its confusing to me. Its like she wants to be together but apart at the same time. Not to ruin or relationship so where still toeggehr and can move on. I'm just loat. Is this normal?

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  • lc1988
    9 years ago

    Ew. My ex tried to pull the same shit with me. Keyword is ex. I've heard quite a few married couples I know did take a break before they got married and was supposedly very beneficial...they grew closer because of it. If you're okay with it then go for it :)

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    • agentcherrycolla
      9 years ago

      I can see it in her eyes she still wants me. We cuddle in bed all. She works nights and ibwas visiting today. Bed she always scoot over and hold onto me and hold on to me. She even kissed me and told me she lived me when she woke up and before work. Everything's the same. We made love today after the break up and I was upset because I felt like this'd be the last time for a while. But ibtold her that and she got upset and said wed still make love. Everything's the same but where just apart. Not fuck buddies or anything close to it. Its just werid!

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      • (s)aint
        9 years ago

        Sounds to me as if she wants to have you as a comfort whilst testing the waters elsewhere.
        Up to you to accept this or tell her to fuck off.

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      • lc1988
        9 years ago

        My thing was that when he said "I won't have sex with anyone else" I didn't believe him. I didn't trust him anymore. The icing on the cake was a week or so after I moved out, he came over after work because he was starving. I made him dinner and he left. He didn't say thank you. I guess it sounds minor now but hell that was when the light bulb came on lol.

        Even if we would've gone on with the break and gotten back together, I knew I wouldn't be able to let go of what he did or who he did during the break you know? I just couldn't let him hurt me anymore and this was the dude I thought was "the one." This was not how my fairy tale was supposed to go.

        A break could be good. This sounds stupid but she does realize that the same rules apply to you as well right? You need to go and see who else is out there. It's not fair if you don't want a break and she does. Don't just wait around for her to go around then just come back in a couple months.

        I guess I've rambled on long enough. I wish you the best and hope you do what's right for you. I have never looked back and am so much happier. If I ever saw him, I'd thank him for suggesting a break. Once I was in my own place..phew. Saved me a lot of pain!

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Break it off. Sounds like shes using you.

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  • LyeByMistake
    9 years ago

    Break it up, she wants to get with other guys and still string you along, you'd be stupid to not end this.

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  • agentcherrycolla
    9 years ago

    Hearts broken. But we broke up. I see what she was doing and I just smoked some weed. Talked to my bro. I never dealt with such intense heartbreak before. But got over the idea of being friends and going to cut off ties for a while.

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  • Johnnytherat
    9 years ago

    allow me to quote a wise man "HO HO HO" - Santa clause

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  • katelyn3648
    9 years ago

    always remember girls .. are sometimes confusing my boyfriend gets confused a lot maybe she wants time apart and wants to talk to other people maybe you should do the same talk to another girl and see what the outcome is, she doesn't know what she wants and if shes under pressure giver her space and time to think or you can let her know how you feel about you guys relashionship

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Leading you on, she's holding onto you until she finds someone she loves more than you. She's probably afraid to be alone(single) so until she secures her next relationship(rebound) you're being taken for the ride. If you're not actually giving eachother space then there's no point in calling this a break, it isn't offering any benefits to either of you. You've given her the opportunity to walk all over you.

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