Is it normal that my gf enjoys seeing me in pain?

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My girlfriend and I love bondage. In the beginning, I noticed that she would always make the restraints way too tight. I told her that it hurt and she agreed to loosen them. That didnt happen. It never happens. She always makes it too tight. Recently its gotten to the point where my wrists bleed from constant rubbing against the ropes yet she still ignores me. How do I get her to stop?

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago | pl

    Don't let her tie you up in the first place. Simple simple.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      There has to be a way to compromise

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      • Arm0se
        8 years ago

        Your letting her tie you up and she's abuseing that privilege. If she won't stop don't let her.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Im kinda afraid of what will happen when I say no. Thenagain I should stand my geound.

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          • Arm0se
            8 years ago

            You don't have to just go up to her and say "no". Sit her down and calmly talk about it.

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  • JackRoberts
    8 years ago

    well threaten her with you dumping her

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  • kellibean.no.1
    7 years ago

    If it's not consensual, it's not OK. Period.

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  • Qualtza
    8 years ago

    Unless you're masochist and she's a sadist, no way in hell thats normal

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Im no masochist but she very well may be a sadist.

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      • wistfulmaiden
        8 years ago

        I should add to my post, She shouldn't insist on it if you really don't like it.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Over power her, pin her down, the tell her you're through with her nasty ass and leave.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago

    I hate to admit this but sometimes I find a make getting a little hurt hot like tight handcuffs.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      But is it ok when your bleeding?

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      • wistfulmaiden
        8 years ago

        No. I personally like to play dominant games but only as far as the guy is willing. I once made a guy bleed by scratching my nails on his back but after realizing I may have gone too far, I haven't done it since. Tell her how far is far enough. It should be more about control and less about pain.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          We talked about it testerday and it seemed to go very well.

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  • rimjob
    8 years ago

    There's nothing you can do at this point. You let it go too far and trying to REVERSE what you have allowed to get this far is only going to REVERSE her SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you.

    Man up and use your brute strength to put in an position of submission and display your dominance...That's if you have the balls at this point.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      My manhood is still intact (barely).

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  • Curious-trans
    7 years ago

    Im all for a little pain but its causing you to bleed against your will so id break up with her, im into alot of things but if it causes me to bleed thats a major no no in my book its one thing if its an accident then well bygons but otherwise it crosses the line for me

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    BDSM only works in an environment of trust. As the "submissive", YOU have the right to set the limits, and she needs to stick within those limits.

    Talk to her BEFORE you play next, and make sure she understands where the limits are. Set a "safe word", and make sure she understands that if you "call safe" it's not up for negotiation - she stops IMMEDIATELY and the problem (restraints too tight whatever) is fixed.

    Also make sure she understands that if she gets "too carried away" again and does not respect your limits, you will be throwing her stupid ass out into the street.

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  • spy02
    8 years ago

    There's thing in BDSM that is called safe word. For example if something is wrong during play you can use it and your partner should immediately stop. BDSM rely on trust to other person. If she break this rules you should simply don't let her do that. But if you love bondage better thing is talk to her. Appoint boundaries in which she'll be satisfied of being dom person and you'll feel comfortable.

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  • unicornsforeal
    8 years ago

    its not normal and its gonna affect u . u should break up this rellationship is some kind of bullshit !! Please help me with age gap its very very QUICK !! its just the ages its very important thaaaaaaaanks
    Hope helped

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  • januarycurse
    8 years ago

    your girlfriend sounds hot. i love dominant women.

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