Is it normal that my friends don't ask me to hang ?

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I'm always the one initiating a friend to hang out/asking them. It sometimes really saddens me that none of my friends try. At the moment im trying to establish a couple new friendships but I feel if it wernt for me asking to see them, id never see them. For example- I'm recently getting to know this great gal and she's so awesome! Thing is- I know if it weren't for me I prob wouldn't hear from her nor would she ask me to hang. We have only hung out once besides work and we had a terrific time! She even said " we should go there" in regards to a place i mentioned in conversation so I know she likes me. I just wonder why no one tries to make an effort. I always wonder if they make an effort with others and its just me!

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  • gloryholeflasher
    8 years ago

    Maybe the problem is the people you choose to be friends with. You sound like an outgoing friendly person. Opposites attract. You probably subconsciously gravitate toward people who are less socially oriented, the loner or introvert type of person, so even though they enjoy hanging out with you and seem to like you they are just not the kind of people to initiate the action. Do you really want to hang out with somebody who is just like you, or somebody that's different? She said "we should go there" sounds like she's doing her part to let you know she wants to spend time with you. If you continue to see her and you want her to take a more active role tell her that every second, or third time SHE has to decide where you're going and what you're going to do together when you hang out.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thanks for your comment ☺ It makes a lot of sense! I think that explanation is very articulate and I'll take it to heart .

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      • Freedom_
        8 years ago

        Woah! You made a smiley.. ☺

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          And?

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          • Freedom_
            8 years ago

            No one has ever done that here before, but apparently that's the only smiley that will work :/

            I wholeheartedly agree with gloryhole btw. I, myself, like to hang out with people but hardly ever initiate and may drop subtle hints instead.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              8 years ago

              Oh serious- thats uncanny!

              Thanks for your honestly- It's good to get an idea of how others like my friend and yourself operate lol

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              8 years ago

              I must ask why though? Why don't you initiate it?

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  • Helloworld101
    7 years ago

    Dont do anything rash if she offered a place like most of us girls we get nervous say something like do u think sometime soon we could hang out and let her do the rest

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  • Lies
    8 years ago

    Be yourself and don't force yourself on people.

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    • Darkoil
      8 years ago

      Yeah no raping.

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