Is it normal that my friends belittle my problems because i am wealthy?

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Just like any other human being, I have problems and I want to be able to talk about them with someone.

Without going too deep into the issue... I have serious problems with my family. Both of my parents are abusive and also put me in the middle of their arguments during their fights. Sometimes my parents get so mad that they leave the house for days, so I have to take care of everything, including my little siblings. Also, like any other normal person, I have the usual problems with love, work, studies, human relationships, etc, etc.

The thing is that whenever I talk about my problems, specially about my parents, my friends belittle whatever I say. They usually say that I am "whiny" or "ungrateful", even though I always listen to everyone else, even while they in fact have similar problems or even less dramatic ones than me.

What they say is that I have no right to complain, because of all the money I have. And it is true, I have travelled a lot, have my own car and I will probably never be in a bad financial situation... but... is life all about that? about money? I don't really think so...

I have stopped talking about my problems for months now. I guess it is not hard to guess that I feel very bad now, as I have no one to talk to. I feel like I have so much to let out, but there is not one there to help me. I am thinking about going to a therapist... but... I just feel so lame to pay for something that any friend could do.

And well, I just feel like I was deprived of a basic human right... all of that because I am "wealthy". So... do you think this is normal?

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    10 years ago

    For some reason there seems to be a growing trend of it being socially acceptable to be obnoxious and cruel to people from well of backgrounds. This is a prime example. What don't you tell your friends they're cunts. It's not like when they start talking about dream cars or houses people say to them, shut the fuck up you're too poor to talk about that stuff.

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  • howaminotmyself
    10 years ago

    I think this is normal regardless of the reason you feel you aren't being heard. I feel this way sometimes because many of my friends think I have it easy. Family dysfunction comes in all income tax brackets. I'm sorry you don't feel any of your friends will listen. Have you mentioned that to them? And if you can't talk to a close friend, strangers work too. There are even many people on this site who are happy to lend an ear.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Wow, thanks guys, I didn't expect comments so fast!

    Well, I have talked to my friends about it before, but they don't care. It is funny, but it is just as if they were a little "resentful" because I indeed have it easier in certain things.

    I am 25 now, and I think that maybe I should get new friends or something... Or at least... talk about my things anyway, since I think I deserve it.

    And yeah, I have been using this site for a while now, and it has been great for venting certain things. However, I always feel in need for face to face interaction as well.

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    • megadriver
      10 years ago

      Sorry about this mate. Consider getting some new friends.

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  • Shackleford96
    10 years ago

    Post your problems on here. We will listen, possibly reluctantly, and you can leave out the part where you have lots of money. :P

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    Like many of those above, I do not think the people you are talking about are "friends" only acquaintances.
    A friend is always there for you even at great inconvenience.
    Though you do not have financial problems it sounds as though your family is as nuts as just about everyone elses, so I'm surprised nobody is there for you to talk to.
    The home thing is a bit more difficult. Unless you want to become one of us poor folk you must retain a civil status in your household. Leaving with bad feelings could be disastrous economically, a real shame. My Dad and I got into a bit of a fight a few years before his death. It cost me a couple of million dollars; bad move on my part.
    As to taking care of your siblings, why not get them to hire a nanny for them and relieve you of the responsibility? Perhaps you could plead that you need more time to study.
    A real friend is a very hard thing to find, so be patient and in time you certainly will.

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    I'm sorry that your having issues with this. At this point in life, yes, money is all that matters to most people. Which is very unfortunate because everyone has problems and everyone needs someone to lean on, even the wealthy. Money divides us, when in reality we are all equals and many of us forget that. Good luck man!

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  • Abend_zersetzen_mich
    10 years ago

    Yes, it's normal. It shouldn't be. If I were you, I would get some new (read: actual) friends.

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear that. How old are you?

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    boo hoo Richy Rich, try dealing with all that shit and doing grave yard sift just to get by.

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  • Moonbow
    10 years ago

    The most likely reason your friends belittle your alleged problems is because you PRETEND to be "wealthy." If you were, indeed, "wealthy," when your parents leave, there would be nannies and maids "to take care of everything, including" your "little siblings."

    One other thing, rich people NEVER refer to themselves as "wealthy."

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    "is life all about that? about money? I don't really think so...
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    Unfortunately in a world where nothing is free and there are no free lunches it is all about money. I don't mean to belittle your problems but don't belittle mine either.

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  • nkwacky
    10 years ago

    I get a notification as soon as I get an email . So I check it as often as I check Whatsapp I suppose .

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  • FruityGoofyFaggot
    10 years ago

    Your friends are assholes and they're only going to get worse as time goes by. Ditch them.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    10 years ago

    I think it's normal but so sad. Sorry about this. I wish you found somebody who understood you better. i bet there's something out there, don't give up :p

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  • elowen
    10 years ago

    No one cares about rich people's problems when most people have to worry about putting a roof over their head and if they'll have enough money to pay their bills through the month.

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