Is it normal that my friend sees losing her virginity like a competition?

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Out of my group of close friends (7 people, 4 girls and 3 guys), only my friend X and I are virgins.
We always talked about it like "Wops, we're the virgin ones!!" as a good thing, but, a few days ago, I got with this guy again, (I have been kissing and stuff with him for a while).
He had never tried to have sex with me, and we always stopped after a blowjob (which my friend hasn't done), but the other day he wanted to have sex, and I was up for it, because I do like him, and, even if i'm not sure if i'm ready, i was horny as hell that I couldnt say no. But then, he didnt have condoms so we didn't have sex in the end (i didn't wanna lose my virginity without a condom? i was thinking of everything that could go wrong - do you think that's good? or i shouldn't have cared?)

but yeah, my friend says she wants to fuck. i think she kinda sees it like she wants to fuck before i do, and now she's scared i might fuck soon, mainly because i almost did the other day. so she has been travelling to see her ex who lives so far, and costs her loads of money; he's gonna come someday soon and she has decided she's fucking him.

is it normal that my friend acts like that? :/ It makes me feel sad.

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    Anyone who treats this like a competition is going to lose regardless of the outcome. It's not a good way to be.

    And of course you were doing the right thing. You should care about being safe.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      But then... I also get this feeling that I don't wanna be the only virgin in the group if she really has sex with her ex. But I'm not doing a stupid thing just to stop being the virgin one, and I do know this for sure. But I do not like the feeling either.

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      • bananaface
        11 years ago

        Makes sense. Sort of peer pressure, you don't want to be the odd one out. If they're good friends, they shouldn't make you feel bad about doing what you want with your own body. I'm glad you aren't doing what your friend is. I think you should have a word with her about it, by the way. Assuming you're right about what she's doing, then I would have thought that she'll probably regret it later.:/

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          ..and she has had sex

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Oh, my friends won't tell me anything. One of the guys says that if I'm stupid enough not to do it, my loss, because it's fantastic. But the girls are like "Aw you're so cute! It's okay, I understand you wanna wait", but, I mean, I've kissed a few guys and done stuff, and my friend has only kissed like 5 guys and she hasn't done anything else, and she's always telling me how we're left out and how she's even more left out than me. We are not left out really :| So I wonder how does she dare to go straight to sex if she hasn't even had a dick in her hands.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    I'm glad you posted this. I feel sad about your friend too (she has completely the wrong idea about what sex and virginity are). I'm pleased, though, that you do seem to understand this and are sensible about things. I don't know your friend so I don't know how you could help her see things differently but she does sound like she needs someone to say something.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I have tried telling her that we are not left out just because of that and it's not that bad if we are virgins since we are not even 20; but she says she doesn't wanna turn 19 being a virgin because it's ridiculous.... She's always talking about it that she kind of makes me feel a little bit ridiculous sometimes

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    11 years ago

    She sounds like a common harlot. These are easily found down town. I do not associate my self with these type of peasants. It is simply not in good taste.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Some girls actually don't care about their virginity. My friend was very eager to lose it cause she just wanted it gone. It had been accesible to her for years, so she jsut went and screwed some guy she knew she waas going to break up with soon. Don't feel bad for her, at some point I guess some girls see it less as a trophy and more of a heavy burder. Wether it be a competetion, or just cause she wants to lose it. Doesn't matter. It's life lol To many social pressures

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