Is it normal that my friend/roommate annoys me

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A year ago my friend and I decided to share an apartment in the city as we're both students. By then I had known her for 5 years and we never argued, were really good friends and even went on vacation together, etc. So I thought it was a pretty good idea as I wanted to move out from my parents. In the first few months there were no problems, but now I find myself being more and more annoyed. She broke up with her boyfriend and I feel like she changed so much. She always goes out, brings boys back to our apartment, let friends sleep over, etc. She also acts out and I just find her really annoying. But the thing that agitates me the most, is that she's becoming better friends with MY (other) friends. When I meet with them, she always wants to come with me and now she even meets with them "behind my back". I just feel a little betrayed and I also think I'm a bit jealous of her becoming friends with "my" friends. But I can't really tell her that because that would sound crazy. How do I deal with this..

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    It sounds like this is YOU, not her, causing the problems. You do not have a monopoly on your other friends(?); you may NOT control who they see or hang around with or like. I think you are seeking reasons to separate yourself from this girl because, as you said, you are jealous.
    Perhaps it would be best if you took some time for introspection and worry less about others and what they do.

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    • immabeez
      9 years ago

      Good point, I really needed to hear this. So thank you. I indeed can't control my friends and it might be me who's causing the problem. But something I haven't mentioned (why I'm having trouble with her being friends with my other friends) is that it feels like I just can't get alone time anymore. When I want/need to be away from her (which I am allowed to I guess, as we're practically always in the same room) and I'm going to meet up with friends, she just blatantly says 'oh I'm coming with you'. It would be nice to have a part of my life to myself, as she also has other friends she meets up with (when, probably, she needs alone time). I know that after all she's still a sweet girl that has no bad intentions and I would still like to continue living with her, but it just feels like she's everywhere.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    You never really know someone until you live with them.

    Same goes for girlfriends/boyfriends

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  • LyeByMistake
    9 years ago

    Bottom line if you don't want to live with her move out.

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