Is it normal that my fiance criticizes my acne this way?

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I'm in my mid to late 20s, and I never had acne as a teenager, so I'm not exactly an expert on what works or doesn't. Today, I woke up with a really bad welt that looks like a spider bite, and it's probably a zit that got out of control. It's never been this bad.

He's like, "Oh my God, what happened to your face?" I get sort of defensive, almost apologetic, and explain that I must have hit my face on something, and that's why it's so bad. He told me that if he were me, he wouldn't have gone into work without covering it up, and I should put makeup on it before visiting his family for the holidays.

I get that it's a bit more severe than usual, but I can't imagine just coming out and telling someone what they SHOULD do about a cosmetic problem. Even if it were severe enough where I thought constructive criticism were necessary, I would still emphasize the "constructive" part. Am I overreacting?

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    Well.. at least now you know that he likes you for your looks and not your personality

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  • the_berry_taco
    9 years ago

    That's pretty rude of him. I would explain to him how that made you feel, and ask him to not do it, again.

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    I think HE is over-reacting. It isn't his call if you want to cover it up or not. Wont it heal better if it's allowed to breathe? I know less than nothing about acne since I've been lucky to get perfect skin.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    He's an ass. At least, you now know his true colours. It would be wise to reconsider marrying him.

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    • slings_and_arrows
      9 years ago

      Get a grip. He said something that was insensitive...and she should reconsider marrying him?

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      • Avant-Garde
        9 years ago

        It's not the "insensitivity" that I'm concerned about. It seems that he is only with her for her looks. That's not a healthy situation and its unfair to her if she's with him for love. It puts all of this pressure on her to look flawless all of the time, which is impossible. What about when she begins to age? Who would want someone that they genuinely love to up and leave them over something as natural as that.

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  • Phat
    9 years ago

    It only gets better from here on in. I figure next time he'll tell you what to wear and how to act in front of his family and friends. I really think you need to marry this decent human being. Where else can you find such a caring and compassionate person. Good luck. For you to even post this tells me you have some serious self-esteem issues.

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