Is it normal that my fiancé goes to see his ex to walk the dogs they shared?

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My fiancé visits his out of town exgirlfriend of 15 years, every week to walk the dogs they shared. When he goes he is gone all day and all evening. Sometimes not rolling in until midnight. He used to just bring the dogs back for a few days then drive them back. Then he said she moved an extra half hour away, so he needs to walk and visit them there rather than bring them back. He swears that they are just friends now...like a brother and sister. Now I found out he also has dinner there on occasion. He still swears that they are just friends. I later found out that she didn't move at all. He says that he said that so he could spend allI day with the dogs there. It was his excuse for doing that.
Should I be worried?

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  • dirtybirdy
    9 years ago

    The fact that he lied about her moving farther away to spend a longer day is pretty shitty. Totally understandable that he wants to see his dogs but why the lie? Bad boy I say, bad. Reconsider your future matrimonkey with this funky dunky.

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  • chole
    9 years ago

    Time to file a lawsuit for custody of those dogs.

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    • Darkoil
      9 years ago

      That is really funny ;)

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    He's lying and cheating, girl! Dumped his sorry ass. Once a cheater always a cheater, but it's kinda like you're getting a taste of your own medicine for being the other woman.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Actually he was with me first. We never got over each other and for that reason, never married, even after years apart. He was never married to his ex. He was planning to leave her before we reconnected. He was tired of a loveless platonic relationship. Then we found each other again and got engaged. We don't want to lose each other again.
      Then this happened. I'm confused.

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  • mystery7
    9 years ago

    Hire a PI to check what's happening when he visits to 'walk the dogs'. Sounds like there's a lot more than just walking the dogs going on.

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  • ginsters101
    9 years ago

    It doesn't take that long to walk the dog. Infidelity is very common, especially with an ex. They are fucking

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    I would usually say no don't worry but the fact that he keeps lying to you is weird. I'd call the girl up and ask for yourself. Or tell him you're going to go with him next time and see his dogs. :)

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  • JD777
    9 years ago

    Sounds fishy. I suggest getting to the bottom this before marrying him. Follow him and observe what goes on during this hours and hours of dog walking.

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  • Lariii
    9 years ago

    Can you try and be friendly to the girl, ask you boyfriend if you can meet her? That way, hopefully, if there was something going on then she'd make that clear, and if there wasn't then you wouldn't worry so much.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I don't even know her and she lives out of town, so it's not like I will run into her. Actually, I don't want to know her. That is not a relationship I want to foster, then end up with her forever in our lives. I don't believe in keeping ex girlfriends or boyfriends around. It is a recipe for disaster. I know for a fact he won't introduce us if I ask because he hates confrontation or any chance of it. He almost has anxiety attacks over confrontation, with anyone.
      I was OK with him going to see the dogs, but this has made me very uncomfortable.

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    Dogs are like family, and them splitting up would obviously be hard for that reason! but everything else seems a bit weird, it doesn't take all day to walk a dog.

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  • DolphinAngel
    9 years ago

    Don't react too much on your jealousy since observing/stalking him doesn't make it better...

    Depending on how well you know his Ex, you might consider talking to her, if they really are only friends now, she will probably understand you... If she is bitchy about you, there is something fishy and you might reconsider trying to find out more...

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I have never met her. I don't know what she wants if anything. All I know is that he left her for me. He said they were over years ago and that they lived as friends in separate bedrooms. I know that she got a new job in something she never did before. It reflects exactly what he is passionate about and does himself for a living. Maybe I'm paranoid, but I think she may have got that job in order to have something in common with him. Something they can talk about.
      He tells me that I am his soul mate and he has always loved me.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I'm with JD777. You have doubts and I think they are based on fairly good judgement.
    This is NOT a man you want to marry, IMO.

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