Is it normal that my father does this?

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So i have a stepmother whom i dont have a good relationship with. She can be kind on the outside but she hates my very existence, she have said that out loud many times also in front of my father, but my father is always quite about this. Here is the problem: When my father and stepmother fight, my father wants me to step in and say something to her. And when i do it, it ends up in huge fight between me and her and then she doesnt talk to me for weeks. But after that my stepmother tries to make up with my dad. And eventually after 2-3 days they are good again and i am left out. After that stepmother gives me the silent treatment while my father dont look at me or talk very little to me. If i say something he will respond while not looking or making the respond as short as possible.
I´know i shouldnt some in there fights ...but its not only that. She does this everytime she fights with me and i feel my father is on her side even when he know it is her fault. I really feel like an outsider. why do they do this?
have anyone else been this situation? IIN?
Please feel free to share your stories.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Why not just move out?

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  • creativewriterfighter
    8 years ago

    I wouldn't say its normal, but something similar happened to me.

    First of all, all my life my father as put us (his children) first, like this story would sound crazy if anyone who knew him heard it. anyway he started dating this woman at the beginning of this summer, and she moved in with us pretty fast. She was nice to us but she seemed kind of stupid and childish lol. Anyway one day she told my father that she doesnt like my sister and they argued and brokeup. they were back together a day later and she didn't even apologize to my sister, she just avoided/ignored her. no one brought it up at all so i just dropped it. like a day later she was complaining that none of us put up the food she coked (even though none of us even ate it) and I told her to put it up because no one even ate it but her and my dad (beware this is a very petty argument lol) and she said she shouldn't have to because she paid for it and I said well stop buying stuff no one even wants it (again, childish argument) anyway my dad came in all pissed off that I was arguing with her and my sister said asked him why he was mad at ME when she started it and he just WENT OFF on her. He started cursing at her, calling her fat, calling her names, being so disgusting towards his daughter (again, this is so out of character. My father has NEVER talked to any of his children that way or acted that way) we were all shocked but basically we got into one big argument about it, there was a huge blow up. He took her side over ours, he even said that his GF didn't care that his GF didn't like my sister. We ended up leaving to our mothers house, and he hasn't tried to contact us since. (We were very close before that)

    is it normal? no, but it happens. You can't put anyone on a pedestal, it surprised me too

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Would you say that what has happened you was fair?

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