Is it normal that my boyfriend went to france and left no contact details?

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My boyfriend of 6 1/2 years has gone to a friend's stag do for the weekend in another country. He has an older mobile phone which "doesn't send or receive text messages abroad", but he's not left any other means of contacting him, and has not told me where he is staying. I don't have contact details either for the people he's with.

I can't think of any reason why I WOULD contact him on a stag weekend, but, in the event of an emergency (we live together)... I just wondered if it would be considered "normal" for a long-term partner to go abroad without telling the other where they'll be etc.?

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  • (.)(.)boobies
    9 years ago

    He's only going to be gone for a single weekend. Not to mention he'll be very far away, where an "emergency" at home likely wouldn't change his itinerary. So, it does seem normal that he's left no contact information.

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    • KateO
      9 years ago

      Thanks for your reply. I wouldn't expect him to change his itinerary, but if something did happen it would've been nice to be able to reach him - maybe if we had kids it would not be considered normal? I know it's only a weekend etc...

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      • (.)(.)boobies
        9 years ago

        With children it would be entirely different. They are completely dependent on their parents. However, you are an adult and can handle two or three days of no contact. You'll get through it and you'll see him when he returns.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches
    9 years ago

    Why couldn't you clear this up BEFORE he left? I don't understand why you have lack of communication.

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  • Soilworker2099
    9 years ago

    And to all these people saying he's cheating.... Don't say those things because now guess what... SHE THINK HE IS!

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  • Soilworker2099
    9 years ago

    Seems a little odd... But if you guys normally have no issues with communication, I'd not think about it too hard, mind wanders and makes you think of things you probably shouldn't, my wife and I have been apart for weeks at a time due to work, we trust each other, we don't always talk daily, or even every 2 days sometimes if I'm away but I know when I get back she's waiting for me as I am her...

    If your worried he's got some problems with loyalty, maybe you should be talking to him about why you feel that way, ways to improve the trust levels you have in him or if he was previously not faithful perhaps have him prove to you he's trustworthy again, but if none of this is it then Don't worry he will be home in a few days and you will be waiting for him.

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  • pixie_dust
    9 years ago

    Seems fishy. makes me wonder if he's cheating

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    Did you ask him for details?

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  • KateO
    9 years ago

    Thanks, I guess it's just not normal for me then. I can't imagine my father taking off abroad and not telling my mother where he would be. It's not a question of not being able to "handle" several days without my partner, it's the communication aspect I think. Anyone else have a view?

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    • (.)(.)boobies
      9 years ago

      If this isn't 'normal' for you, like you said, then that's all you have to worry about. You don't need the opinions of strangers from some silly online forum like this one. Do and expect what you feel is right for you.

      By the way, most married couples I know, including my parents who've been married for 46 years, take trips away without one another and sometimes they aren't able to keep in touch or aren't gone for long enough to bother with it. I think it's more common to want 24/7 contact in new relationships where the couple aren't married.

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  • setti234
    9 years ago

    The fact that u are asking this question means you guys have issues. Of course you should have contact details. Your afraid to ask for reasons that are pretty serious. The fact that he is obviously testing you by not leaving u with contact details , means he pretty immature. Want to continue to play games, stay in the relationship. Want something more, make the required changes.

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