Is it normal that my boyfriend wants me to pay for things he wants to do?

*sniff* Gender equality.

He's pathetic. What ever happened to chivalry?

Sounds like you found a real douche bag... People in relationships have to mutually respect one another. Sure, he doesn't have to spend all of his money supporting you, but he has to respect that you have limitations financially. I would dump him. There are many guys out there that aren't so frugal... To put it nicely.

who is rating this poll? I'm starting to think it is the boyfriend.

He's a douche bag. :)

He's as tight as a ducks arse...

Then stop complaining and tell him to stop doing that and if he doesnt just kick him in the balls.

If he doesn't make you feel good then hes not worth the time. Fuck he sounds like a cheap ass. If he invites then he should pay.

What a jack ass u deserve to be treated like princess honey get ureself a new man I've never had a relationship a guy would make me pay your making chivalry dead girl u need to higher your standards in looking for a man not a total cheap head You deserve the biggest fish in your pond don't settle for less.

I don't see anything with what he's doing.

Fuck you.

Good on him!

Sounds like a bastard. He should be paying proportional to his earnings. He sounds real rich as well, for you to be in money trouble while he is super-rich *and* disrespectful to you about it proves to me that he doesn't really care about you. Consider leaving if he can't pull himself together.

well nowadays its normal for the women to pay for stuff in the relationship, but not if he makes way more than you and he makes you pay, as well as being rude about your cooking. he sounds like a douche.

Make your opinion count...when you cook for him, insist you stay in and eat it. Tell him its not appropriate to make you spend above your means and that you refuse to get into debt because of him.

If he wants you to pay equally then you need to let him know that its not a problem, but he will have to adjust his lifestyle to your income when with you. Be clear and strong about this and respect yourself, even if he doesn't.

Hi OP,
I completely understand the way you feel. As a Christian, I do see the faults within other people. However, when Christians see faults in other people, it's not to judge. The Bible says "judge and you shall be judged" so that's a no-no! Instead, Christians recognize fault in order to initiate change. We believe, because the Bible tells us, that everyone has the ability to overcome sin.

I personally judge others because doing so help me see the fault within myself. I use others as a mirror to reflect the influences of society and Satan upon myself.

Hope this helped!

Echoing some of the positive comments: Leave him. Reading this post and the subsequent comments has made me really angry, because this issue has nothing to do with chivalry or feminism; it's basic self respect, regardless of your gender. Who has eroded your self esteem to the point in which you no longer value yourself? You've given your "boyfriend" the ability to dominate you. No friend would willingly treat another friend so badly unless there was an ulterior motive. In this case, your submission to his notional superiority, massages his over inflated ego, making him feel great at your expense. You must never allow this to happen again. Leave this monster now - he's feeding off your misery. Tell him it's over. Don't answer his calls, texts, letters. Don't answer the door to him. Don't allow him a route into your life through any mutual friends. He may seem to undergo a miraculous change of character, by promising never to behave like this again. He will. He is controlling and he will continue to find other ways of controlling you because, you've shown him a fatal weakness; you have an overwhelming need to feel liked and wanted. You've allowed him to victimise you. He willingly degraded you in front of friends and family. Please, leave him in your past. Learn a valuable lesson while you heal: You must love and respect yourself before you can expect anybody else to. I do wish you every success.

He's a lowlife maggot. Get yourself a man who appreciates your cooking and buys you teddy-bears (like me)

Dump him! Whatever he's saving his share for, it's sure as hell not for you and him to be together for the long term! If he was a decent guy then of course it would be proportionate.

I went out with a guy like this many years ago who pretended he never had any small money notes. We got on a bus and the fare was 40 pence each. He asked if I had 80 pence as he had no small notes. No problem, I paid the 80p but when we got to town he pulled out a £1 note. He would've got 20 pence change! His dad was a bank manager and he had a massive trust fund but he always 'borrowed' off me and thought his 'charm' meant he didn't have to pay it back! He has never married (no-one would have him) and he has turned into a serious gambler - his love of money has driven him to try to get rich quick.

I'd a very lucky escape!!