Is it normal that my boyfriend still loves his ex?

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I found out one night when my boyfriend thought i was asleep that he still loves his ex when he texts her that he loves her so much and before that she wouldnt be bored if he was there.

I told him that i wasnt happy and he had a reason but he said he still loves her but has strong feelings for me.

i dont know whether to stay with him or not.

i dont know what to do because he gets depressed very easily and i dont want to make him worse but i dont want to feel like im leading him on.

I feel like im being used but he assures me hes not. Should I stay with him? Is it normal to feel this way?

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  • MegaDerp
    12 years ago

    He's depressed cause he loves her and wants to be with her but doesn't wanna hurt your feeling so maybe you should leave him

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    • joybird
      12 years ago

      Well said MegaDerp!

      Bin the fool, you deserve better. He's gona dump you if she takes him back or he finds someone new.

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  • Zoroaster
    12 years ago

    Nearly, and I want to put an emphasis on NEARLY, 100% of the time someone, whether a boy or a girl, is still in love with his/her ex, that means they will not be able to truly be with you. You should end it before the two of you become more attached to one another, or before someone gets hurt. He needs to either get over his feelings for his ex or stay single, because hanging onto the past never ends well.

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  • michelle2451
    8 years ago

    Leave him. You're not responsible to keep some person who doesn't love you happy. Save your dignity and leave

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  • Ozzy
    11 years ago

    that's normal, the best thing is to break up but to let him know that you're there for him if he needs you. That kind of relationship you're in right now isn't healthy for anyone.
    "There's plenty of fish in the sea" think bout that and dont stick to the same guy if ure insecure

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  • istrawberry
    12 years ago

    Just break up with him. It'll hurt too much staying with him if he still loves his ex. You don't want to go down that road.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    So moral of the story, if you love or still love someone who doesn't, don't fucking get into a relationship with another person.

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  • xstarbugyx
    12 years ago

    Get rid of him u should be the one He loves not the ex. He will end up leaving u to be with her in the long run get out now

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  • ProudlyOneHundred%
    12 years ago

    Have you ever read those stories where a girl is in love with her ex, but her ex is with - and possibly loves - another girl. In almost all of those stories, the ex breaks up with his girlfriend.

    In a way, I kinda consider this cheating. Texting her at night? What the hell? Make your point clear that if he doesn't drop his bulldust, then its over.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    "i dont know whether to stay with him or not. "

    You already found him trying to sex up his ex and you don't know whether or not you should stay with him?

    What are you waiting for? A dvd of them having sex before you realize he doesn't care about cheating on you?

    voting not normal for him to carry on like that

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  • moomus
    12 years ago

    Tell him to jog on, u deserve better

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  • chaosdragoon1
    12 years ago

    You don't prioritize someone else over yourself if they don't love you.

    "strong feelings" is not love. More like I REALLY REALLY LIKE YOU.

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    !!!

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  • aliwashere0609
    12 years ago

    ^^^ditto

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  • forevercg
    12 years ago

    leave him! the fact that he is texting her like that is disrespectful to you. I left my man at christmas because i saw a text from him to his ex saying he missed her... long story short he found out his feelings for her are over and spent months trying to get me back, we are happy together now:) leave him and if things are feel with the two of you, he will come crawling back

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    • therealist
      12 years ago

      hey forevercg, you're right about that she should leave him. but regarding your story, don't you ever think that the sole reason why he went back to you is because he realized that he couldn't be with her? That you're just a back up? Happy together? Geez, I hate it when women are so delusional and stupid. C'mon women, be smart and value yourselves for once. You shouldn't have to play mind games in order for someone to love you. Stop treating men like pets (and men, stop dating other women if you still love your ex. BE A MAN and get over her BEFORE you move on to the next one).

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