Is it normal that my boyfriend only talks to me once a week?

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The rest of his week is dedicated to friends and video games. Other than that, we have a pretty healthy relationship and have never fought. I'm laid back and not clingy in the slightest, but I think his behaviour is weird. He acts like hes into me and tells me is on dates/calls. We don't go on dates very often and we only talk once a week. Is this normal?

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  • Drew888
    7 years ago

    It would be cool if he played video games and hung out with his friends a couple times a week or something, but if he spends more time on games than you then that's not normal.

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    • Val177
      7 years ago

      I think he's probably addicted, so I dunno if we should break up or not.

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    That´s not normal. You should at least get as much time as his friends and his games are getting.

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    no that's not enough personal time in my oppinion

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  • CreamPuffs
    7 years ago

    Not a normal relationship. I've dated a guy who was really into video games. He ALWAYS made lots of time for me. In fact, by talking so little, I'm not sure if it can be really called a relationship. More like an acquaintance.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    He sounds pretty weird. My guy called me at least once or twice a day before we moved in together. I dunno, it's your call. How long have ya'll been together?

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    • Val177
      7 years ago

      Almost a year, he wasnt always like this. He used to call me everyday in the begining of the relationship and we'd go on dates every Saturday. It is very weird.

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  • FANGirl
    7 years ago

    I'm not sure. If he was like that in the beginning, you've probably just got a real gamer. I'm a hardcore gamer and we sink so much of our lives into video games! It may seem like an addiction to casual or non-gamers, buuuut......It's simply a big part of who we are as people~ Gamers easily lose track of time. He may not even notice. Why not play the video games with him, if he's up for it? Or watch, if he doesn't mind? He probably won't mind if he's really into you. Then you can tell.

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    • Val177
      7 years ago

      I guess I'm a causal gamer because I have other responsibilities and its hard for me to balance school and hobbies. We both have steam so it's very easy for us to pm each other. But it seems whenever I get online, hes already caught up in a game with his friends. Skype call and everything, so I don't get to do anything with him. If I send him a message he'll respond as quick as possible, but he wouldn't try to call me or lengthen the conversation because he is always with his friends. Which isn't a bad thing really, I'm glad he made friends doing what he likes, but we barely spend any time together. I know whats its like to get really into a game, but I always make time for people.

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  • keru
    7 years ago

    Well you guys have been dating for almost a year and he still has a life and if that's the case, I would say it's pretty norm imo. He's just taking time off, this is good.

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    • Val177
      7 years ago

      Time off from what though? He's been doing the same thing, since high school. I put it off because playing video games all day is normal for students. Now that hes out of school and doesnt have a job, he should have way more time for hobbies, friends and me. And im on the back burner. =(

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      • keru
        7 years ago

        Hi can I have your e-mail? What I want to say is pretty long.. :/

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      • Gurl_Power
        7 years ago

        Typical woman. Even at your age you are already trying to change this 19 yr old guy. This guy probably has no use for a serious relationship and is just looking for a casual dating sort of exchange. It's why he plays video games and hangs out with friends as much as he does. And good for him.

        Instead of posting online about it, try branching out and dating other people. It's not like you are totally beholden to him and him alone.

        Complaining about his behavior online won't change it, confronting him about it won't work either. Accept that he's doing what he wants to do. And that he will most likely keep doing that at this age.

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        • Val177
          7 years ago

          How could he say hes dating me if he barely even talks to me? He doesnt even leave the house, unless its for a date. Which we barely do, but i think it just that the place we live in has nothing really to do.

          I guess i should date around, but he even said himself that hes exclusive with me. So it keeps me from doing that...

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  • surreypro
    7 years ago

    There is no single formula for a relationship, but it is troubling that he spends so much time on a nonproductive thing like video games.

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    • Val177
      7 years ago

      I'm a little worried too. He's 19... I get that's what he likes doing, but he does it for the whole day, until 6 in the morning. Rinse and repeat. Honestly, since he's not in school, I think he should get a job, lol.

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  • TWATS
    7 years ago

    It means he has a honey on the side.
    Do the math.
    Its time for you to look for new meat for the grinder.

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    • Val177
      7 years ago

      Doubt

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      • TWATS
        7 years ago

        there's no doubt about it.

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  • rayb12
    7 years ago

    I have a relationship like this right now. It's not common but people find different things that work for them which is key.

    I wouldn't be worried just on grounds that you think it's unusual. If you would rather talk more though, I don't think that would be a clingy move and it is totally your place to advocate for what you like, in an understanding and respectful way.

    Or just call him more

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  • misslonglegs
    7 years ago

    Not normal see if u can join in or get ride of console or find a different fella

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  • TheBox1373
    7 years ago

    Probably cheating on you

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    • Val177
      7 years ago

      I hope not. >_< I've met his friends, all guys though so I trust him.

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