Is it normal that my boyfriend likes anal play and won't tell me?

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I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now, our sex life has always been good but pretty vanilla. he does have some confidence issues. I know that butt play can be very pleasurable for men because of the location of the male g-spot, so I've brought it up before but he's always said that he's not comfortable with me going anywhere neer his asshole. Even if I'm giving him a hand job and my hand happens to go too far south he'll get jumpy and tell me to stop. So I always assumed it's just not something that he's comfortable with. However yesterday I was taking a picture with his phone and saw the "recently deleted" folder. It was full of pictures and videos (which I didn't watch) of him jerking off, fingering his ass and even sticking multiple objects up there himself. Needless to say it kind of freaked me out. I can't help but question what's going on with him? If that's something he's into and he's straight with nothing to hide then why wouldn't he want me to do that with him, especially since I've brought it up multiple times. I know he's attracted to me, he never has issues getting hard. But he has made some comments about how strangers sometimes think he's gay. And its hard to explain but the pictures weren't very masculine, his back was arched and he was looking back at the camera. Anyways If anyone has any insight it would be greatly appreciated because I'm sort of freaking out over this.

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  • Gspyder
    7 years ago

    He sounds insecure about his sexuality- which he shouldn't be, whatever it is. If you talk to him about it be sure to let him know that.

    Oh, and I'd be concerned about who he took those photos for above all else.

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  • mokuton
    7 years ago

    Its normal

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  • Eliza99
    7 years ago

    Yeah, I'm planning on it. I just don't know how to bring it up yet without making him too uncomfortable, and I'm trying to wrap my head around what he's thinking/doing first. I've been thinking about it and I honestly just think the pictures were for him, but maybe I'm being niave.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    7 years ago

    So if his back was arched and he was looking back at the camera... some-one else took them?

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    • Eliza99
      7 years ago

      No, You could see his arm in the shot, holding his phone. This particular picture didn't show much of his ass or the object inside of it, just as much as he could fit in the frame. I know it's difficult to picture. There were also some taken in front of a mirror.

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      • SkullsNRoses
        7 years ago

        Ok, I still think you need to discuss this with him though.

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