Is it normal that my boyfriend is mad that i talked to another guy all night?

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Basically, i'm just back from a girls holiday. Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years. On our last night we met a group of guys- all of us had boyfriends so it was all innocent. I didn't want to get with any of them, I love my boyfriend. Turns out this group of guys had just arrived and were next door to our hotel room. When getting back at about 3am we all sat out on the balcony and talked (some came into the room but left to go out again). I was still with my friends at this point. A few hours went by and one-by-one my friends and his went to bed (we had a flight to catch in the morning) util eventually it was just me and this one guy. I kept telling him i was going to bed but he would engage me in more conversation and we kept talking- just about general stuff, we weren't flirting or anything. In fact half the conversation was about my boyfriend! Absolutely nothing happened. At one point he wanted to come over my room but said no and said i was going to bed, swiftly going into the room and going to bed.

My boyfriend is mad at m for staying up half the night with this guy alone. I should have went to bed when my friends did, according to him. He also wasn't happy about the fact that i was wearing his shirt as pyjamas at the time- Exposing myself to the guy effectively.

I don't think i did anything room but I can sort of see where he is coming from as If it was him staying up talking to a girl, i probably wouldn't have liked it.

Thoughts?

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  • imadragon
    9 years ago

    Getting a tiny bit jealous would be normal, but that doesn't mean he has to be mad. That is just immature.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    If I had a girlfriend I wouldn't mind her talking to other guys. I hangout with other girls and wouldn't be with anyone who didn't like my female friends.

    I might get mad about her talking about me when I'm not there though if I suspected she was mad at me and nagging.

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    • 11243
      9 years ago

      Aw no, I wasn't nagging about it. Just talking about him in general- what he did for a living, how long we've been together etc

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    9 years ago

    Sounds insecure

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  • (.)(.)boobies
    9 years ago

    A bit of jealous at first might be normal but once you explained the situation to him, he should have calmed down.

    You are his girlfriend and not his possession. If he trusts you and trusts the love that you share, he shouldn't feel intimidated by you making friends with the opposite sex while he's not around. And it's not up to you to make him feel more secure, it's something that he has to fix on his own.

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  • megadriver
    9 years ago

    The guy is in every wright to be angry! You stayed up all night talking to another man, ignoring the man you love.

    If you really love the guy, you need to make it up to him.
    Start off by saying that you are sorry, cook him dinner, make him feel at ease. Do whatever he likes to show him you care and that was just a talk you should have ended sooner than you did.

    If my girlfriend talked to another guy the whole night, ignored me and talked behind my back, I'd be pretty pissed too.

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    • 11243
      9 years ago

      Again, I wasn't talking about him badly. Just In general like what he did for a living and our relationship etc.

      I didn't ignore him either. I was in a completely different country to him and it was like 4am where he was, he was asleep!!

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  • howlsilver
    9 years ago

    I smell jealousy... I think its normal cause he's your bf. Imagine yourself if youre in his position. Your bf talks to a girl all night and then explain to him nothing really happen just talking about him. Even if youre saying the truth, its still suspicious. Even if he trust you, there's still doubt. I think you should apologize to him even if you havent done anything wrong.

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    • 11243
      9 years ago

      I get what you're saying. It genuinely was completely innocent and didn't think anything of it at the time but I understand if the tables were turned I probably would have been jealous too!

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