Is it normal that my boyfriend is mad i spent all night talking to a guy?

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I've been dating my boyfriend for two years and I'm in my second semester of college. I went over to this guy's dorm to finish studying for a quiz (I've known him for three weeks) and when he brought me back we ended talking until sunrise (I had class and work the next day until 5pm). My boyfriend is mad, and I think he does have a right to be mad, but at the same time, I want to make my own decision in college and everything. Me and the new guy just talked, nothing else happened. My boyfriend was mad because he left that night so I could go to bed early and rest.

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  • povich031
    13 years ago | pl

    Stop pretending that thus guy you spent the night talking to didn't have you folded up like a safeway turkey stuffing the he'll out of you!! And by the sounds of it you have had more cock ends than weekends, if I was your boyfriend you would be sucking dick for bus fair cause I would kick your ass to the curb for that. It shows absolutely no respect for him or the relationship you say you have with him!!! Wake up!!! That's not right.

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  • ComeFlyWithMe
    13 years ago

    If I were your boyfriend I'd be mad at you too, very mad. Treat your boyfriend how you would like to be treated. If you're ok with him ditching you early to go talk to another girl all night then fine, but for some reason I don't think you'd like that very much.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    It's a tricky one. Would your boyfriend have been as angry if you'd stayed up talking to a girl? If not, then it's partly a trust issue. If it's purely that he gave you time alone and you stayed up anyway, I'm sure it'll blow over. It's not like you planned to do this. It's also not like you've lied to your boyfriend about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Well I'm on both sides in this story. I'd be mad too but at the same time you can do what you want. All I can say is how would you feel if this happened to your boyfriend? If he went to a girls dorm and spent all the night talking with her. Would you be mad?

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    So you talked to a boy? GASP. Who cares? If he can't trust you with talking to another human, then there is a problem. There's nothing wrong with hanging out and talking with people, no matter what sex it is. You never mentioned an attraction or anything happening, and you didn't lie to him. This is an open and shut case of bullshit. Tell your boyfriend he is not your babysitter and he should learn some trust.

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  • aduusw
    13 years ago

    It's normal to be a slut

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    • neverletmego
      11 years ago

      DFKM! LMAOO!! I love you so much right now!!!

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    Country roads you don't seem to see the point here. The guy was probably pissed because instead of spending the night talking to him, she went and spent it with another guy. Doesn't matter if there isn't an attraction on her part. For all you know the guy could like her. And no one should be putting themselves in that kind of situation.

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    • DrinaVonCheez
      12 years ago

      Precisely!

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    He has every right to be pissed. You shouldnt be hanging with other men by yourself if you are in a relationship.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    It is a wise and respectable thing for a woman who is in a relationship to exercise self-control and limit her close association with other men. Your boyfriend's reaction is very normal.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    "I think he does have a right to be mad"

    Why? He has a right to dictate to you whom you talk to? How long you talk for?

    When did he become your owner?

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    • keeping_up_with_da_kids
      11 years ago

      She spent the night with a different guy that he does not know. It is not about him having a control like grip upon her life.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        11 years ago

        "spent the night" - yeah cos if you act like she was laying down spreading her legs then it sounds so bad.

        but when you take into account she was just chatting... then it's innocent.

        However some people can't get it into their heads that their partners are allowed to have friends of the opposite gender. and that any interaction that they're not witnessing must be sex and cheating

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        • keeping_up_with_da_kids
          11 years ago

          She spent the night in some guys dorm chatting. It is normal to be mad at her. It is not comparable to a real controlling relationship. And it is not about interaction with the other gender making him angry.

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          • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
            11 years ago

            that's because if you keep focusing on "spent the night" you still make it sound sexual.

            Change it to "hung out with a friend and chatted for 6 hours" then... o look it doesn't sound so sexual anymore.

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            • keeping_up_with_da_kids
              11 years ago

              I never stated that it was sexual so just remove that ignorant assumption from you're mind. Now personally in my opinion I think he should be a bit more trusting and she should respect the relationship a bit more. And it is human nature to question and assume things so you are not a blind sheep believing any lie you hear male or female. And personally if I was the guy I would be a tad bit jealous that she was associating with a guy like that but then I would be re leaved that she told me what had happened. And the same thing would happen if the gender roles where switched. What I mean is it is human nature to be mad no matter what gender you are.

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  • neverletmego
    11 years ago

    I think your boyfriend just got jealous. If he stayed up all night talking to a girl after you left, you would be mad too! I think he should be mad, if he wasn't mad then that would mean he doesn't care. Your boyfriend is completely normal, but maybe you should stop talking to guys until 5am, then your boyfriend wouldn't have a reason to get mad.

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  • aduusw
    12 years ago

    You should cuckold your sissy bf

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    Lol apparently those of you who think he's overly jealous and controlling never have actually been with a guy who was controlling and overly jealous. If you have then you would know what it's really like.

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  • MeSoBig
    13 years ago

    My wife did that once. Talked to a guy for a few hours and said nothing happened. In the middle of a fight 2 years later, she admitted that she sucked his cock. He fucked her pussy and Ass and cam inside her Ass... Seriously. No woman can eber be trusted. That's why he's mad... He knows you took the meat balloon in that Ass

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  • flowers-madness
    13 years ago

    Hes obviously insecure and controlling. Mines the same way. I hate my bf.. wtf argh

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