Is it normal that my boyfriend has been watching porn on his phone at work and.

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I have been with my boyfriend soon to be fiance for 2 years now,a few months ago we got the droids mine is for everyday use,he has 2 phones a work phone and a driod,a few months ago a friend of ours introduced him to you porn,he didn't watch it right away but soon after I seen his phone and there were tons of porn,i told him 2 stop nd if he wanted to.watch it to please watch it with me. He started leaving his droid at the house nd not watching it as much,well I noticed he started taking his phone everywhere again. So when he wasnt looking I looked at the history nd sure enough porn porn porn and trust me its not because I don't want sex I'm.a 32 yr old woman nd I love sex!!! So today he gets in the shower way earliest than usual nd he knew I.was cooking on the grill nd want gonna be in for a bit. When I came in asked please don't tell me your watching that nd jerking off in.the shower. He replies.NO!!??? I.said ok let me see your phone ,here he had it hid underneath a hotpad in the bedroon!!! I.already knew he deleted everything.but I kept hitting bk button and sure enough there it was only a few pages behind I don't know what to do or think anymore,this is ruining our relationship , is this normal for guys to do? I'm not a bad looking girl or anything just saying. Please someone tell me what I can do.if anything. Thank you please be kind and honest,this is really hurting me he says he loves me so much and I turn him on if so then why all the porn??

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  • fyerdancer4136
    12 years ago

    Yea I know I tend to take things to heart sometimes,and i know I shouldn't especially on here,so thank you for your advice,I found it to be very helpful actually,and I'm using everyones advice to not sweat the small shit in life,lifes too short for me to concentrate on everything he does or the things he says!

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    Jerking off is a different experience than having sex; not better, not quite the same, just different. Porn helps make the jerking off experience fun. I think that you are freaking out over nothing. He just wants a little fun on his own; nothing wrong with that. He's not cheating, you're not against porn, what's the hangup? Do you really need to be his all and everything sexual all that bad? Sounds possessive to me.

    Of course you are not the only woman that would have such a reaction but that don't make it right. If you don't want to know about it, stop fucking spying on him and tell him you don't want to know about it.

    It only really matters if your sex life suffers so.

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  • fyerdancer4136
    12 years ago

    Well if he does he does,right now everything is great and I can only live for today

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    He'll leave You before you leave him

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Very cool! Glad to hear..good luck.

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    yeah i was a bit too harsh with no reason, the thing is that you overreacting about it.

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  • fyerdancer4136
    12 years ago

    I should actually say that I'm happy with most,except calling me a cunt,and that I'm possessive,I think he's way more possessive and jealous,we have many issues we need to work out,this is why I'm trying to get outside advice ,and trust me my feelings of being trustworthy are not all on me !!! that's a whole different story,but after I see how mean people can be I'm not sure ill post anymore. Well thanks again

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    • Tisgranum
      12 years ago

      If you hang around forums, especially here where we are not censored, you will soon learn to take some and leave some. They are only words from strangers you don't know. Eventually you even learn to live with the unnecessary rudeness like water off a duck.

      And I was actually pretty nice in my post, I do believe. There was a situational possibility of possessiveness....

      I think you just need to realize that people post comments, not facts. Ignore the ones who piss you off or argue with them if it pleases you, but letting the forums affect your life and humor in a negative way is kind of silly. Strangers on the net should mean nothing to you.

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  • fyerdancer4136
    12 years ago

    Thank you for all your comments and the cunt comment was not very nice! My phone puts periods between words,and I dont know why,all I asked if this was normal,we talked about it last night and he told me that its just that he likes to watch it as do i,and now we can both have our own private time,or watch it together. I'm not a snoppy bitch,I was concerned,no one knows anyone's life so I would say its uncalled for to say nasty things,I can handle constructive criticism,not nasty people! I asked a question and I'm happy with the comments !

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Relax. It's just something guys do...regardless of how great, and frequent the sex is. I'm actually a little more concerned about how controlling and insecure you are.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    If you had to be there ready for him, every time he thought of sex, you would soon tell him to go back to what he was doing! Stop invading his personal time and start developing trust for each other, if you want a healthy relationship! Good luck with your choices!

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  • honeybeee
    12 years ago

    Plus he is a grown man it's not like his a teenager that needs porn all the time ! Tell him to grow up

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    • Alison89
      12 years ago

      Also, it's not like he's a teenager and she's not his parent?

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  • honeybeee
    12 years ago

    Well I think he should stop if he really loves u and u told him it hurts u and he does it anyway then it's not real love .

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    You seem to spend a lot of your time investigating the "wrongdoings" of your future husband. Consequently, he spends a lot of his time feeling he has to hide it from you.

    Neither of those things are healthy.

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    • Alison89
      12 years ago

      That's a keen observation!

      She mentions she finds herself attractive and enjoys sex, but the only interactions she mentions having with him involve nagging, condemning, and snooping.

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  • What'sMyName?
    12 years ago

    You put a period after "and". That's not cool.

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    • Alison89
      12 years ago

      You read that whole thing and that's your input on the grammar? The OP reads like Latka from Taxi was writing it.

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  • babaG
    12 years ago

    I used to have amazing sex everyday, multiple times and would still jack off at night. It's just what I do. Has nothing to do with the girl.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Chill out and let him do it.

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