Is it normal that my boyfriend gets mad every time i leave?

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I go to my boyfriends house every week I usually stay for 5 days every week. Sometimes it's only 3 days because I have things to do. I always tell him when I am going to leave when I get there and he sees okay with it. But when the day comes for me to leave he ignores me completely like I did something wrong.

When I try to hug him or show him some kind of affection he pushes me away and tells me to leave him alone. He usually says things like "You don't care about me" " Go home I don't want you here." "All you do is constantly leave me" "I thought I had a girlfriend who loved me, but all she wants to do is leave" and "You aren't real. Who are you I don't even know you, get out of my house."

At first I found it cute how he was upset I was leaving, but he does this every week and it gets annoying. Sometimes he says some pretty mean things because he is mad I have to go. Usually I always ask him whats wrong and then I figure out he's mad because I'm leaving. then I tell you don't have to be mad It's not like I'm never coming back. Usually I keep hugging him and stuff until he stops acting like like a jerk which can take hours. If I don't do this and I just leave him alone then he says I gave up too quickly and I don't care about him and then he's all yeah you need to go. But when I try to make him feel better he says really mean things to me.

I don't understand why he acts this way if I'm at his house every week, its like I practically live there, yet he acts like I only see him once every month for 5 minutes.I usually go to his house on Monday, and I come home Saturday morning.

Is it normal for him to act this way?

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago

    He sounds like a fucking baby. A clingy, annoying, child. Why don't you go find a real man? One that doesn't free base codependency.

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  • dirtybirdy
    8 years ago

    OMG he's a big clingy baby. I would be beyond annoyed at that pathetic whiney nonsense. Well I just wouldn't put up with it at all really. How old is this dude? Sounds like he has his own house??

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  • DickwaffleTheGreat
    8 years ago

    how does a spoild little bitch got a girlfriend in the first place??

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  • NathanScot
    8 years ago

    No its not normal.Thats very immature of him.Your both adults as such u both have responsibilities that have to be taken care of.Frankly i'm surprised he's still acting like a child considering you practicly live with him.Tell him to act more mature. Being in love is great but you cant eat love,you cant pay for food in the supermarket with love,you cant pay rent with love.Bit of distance in a relationship is always good as it allows each partner to also focus on themselves for a change which is quite healthy.

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago

    You sound like you are his mother instead of his girlfriend.

    You need to do one of two things:

    ONE: when you have to leave and he is acting like a tit, tell him that he is being childish and you don't have time for his stupid moods. Tell him to grow up.

    TWO THINGS: when you have to leave and he is acting like a tit, just leave. Leave and never go back. If he tries to contact you and asks why you left forever, tell him that you are tired of his childishness.. and that he has a small penis. Then you block his number and go buy yourself a frozen yoghurt.

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    • Arm0se
      8 years ago

      LOL! "and that he has a small penis. Then you block his number and go buy yourself a frozen yoghurt."

      Best. Comment. Ever.

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  • Crusades|
    8 years ago

    The thing you do wrong is that you reassure him every time he acts like a child, basically rewarding his whiny behavior. As long as you do that, he's gonna keep being a pathetic little drama queen. What you need to do is, be cold with him and tell him straight up that he's acting like a petulant little kid and you can't be with an immature guy so he better stop the bullshit or else you're gonna leave him for good.

    By the way, this is so weird, I feel like I'm giving advice to a mother regarding her child's bad behavior. For fuck's sake!

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    • CountessDouche
      8 years ago

      But you're advising her to be manipulative and all passive aggressive in a bitchlike fashion to get what she wants. That's just as childish, in my opinion. What about straight up telling him he's being a pussy? I guess women don't do that...

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        8 years ago

        yeah at first I did tell him he was being unseasonable and a whiny but it had no effect. He was still being a jerk. So then I try a different approach which is being nice about it. He still whines, but eventuality stops.

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    • (s)aint
      8 years ago

      I can´t believe I am agreeing with you.

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      • Crusades|
        8 years ago

        Another thing we both agree on is that I'm the most handsome man in the world.

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  • pablo
    8 years ago

    For me, the way that he treats you is "violence of gender"

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Please explain what you mean by violence of gender.

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  • neonclam
    8 years ago

    Your boyfriend is a pouty little girl.

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  • pixie44
    8 years ago

    Sorry he's trying to be controlling and manipulating you into getting what he wants. Don't feed into his bullshit tell him to grow the fuck up.

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  • pablo
    8 years ago

    Violence from men to women (insults, beating. ..)

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  • pablo
    8 years ago

    If he really loves you, he must take care of you.

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    You spend a lot of time with him as it is. I am clingy and when it´s time for me to go home from my BF´s place I get sad, really sad to be honest but I certainly don´t act anywhere near that.

    It´s not normal, especially not since you see one another as much as you do. Sounds as if you are the only person in his life and without you he´s devastated.
    Ask him if the two of you should not get to know other people to hang out with that could maybe be company for him as well.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      We have been together for 3 years and honestly this is the only annoyance about him. He does have other people in his life and usually when I with him he spends a lot of his time talking to them and ignoring me.

      Which is fine to a certain extent but then I'm like when I'm here he kinda ignores me but the moment I have to leave he begs me stay and when I cant stay he becomes a jerk face.

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      • BadPuns
        8 years ago

        I don't think it is fine. To me it sounds completely unfair.

        Basically like he gets to do whatever he wants but you're not allowed to do the same. It's like you're his property, like a car: He doesn't have to be in the car all day long but he wants to make sure it's in front of his house every time he looks out of the window..

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      • (s)aint
        8 years ago

        He seems weird.
        You deserve better.

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  • D.O.C
    8 years ago

    and the age of your boyfriend.?

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  • noid
    8 years ago

    Of course it's not normal.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Dump him, he's a crazy little bitch.

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    • wistfulmaiden
      8 years ago

      Amen

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Hallelujah!

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