Is it normal that my boyfriend completely changes around an attractive woman?

My boyfriend is usually talkative and friendly. When he is around a woman he finds attractive, he changes. He becomes quiet, silly and sometimes angry. What does this mean?

These women look very different than me, more masculine, short and stubby. I am attractive, but in a different way. This makes me feel that he is attracted to a different type of woman. It makes me think he should find someone else that he is more attracted to.

I have talked to him about it and he claims he is not aware of it. I become embarrassed because the woman is aware of his behavior, and I am standing there like a cheap ho. Help!

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  • handsignals

    So you think your boyfriend is attracted to muscular midgets????????

    Think you need to explain more.

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  • ProseAthlete

    Is he acting different because he finds them attractive? Has he actually come right out and said that? If so, he's behaving like kind of a jerk in the first place for bloviating to you about how attractive other women are. If not, you might be reading too much into his actions; he might be getting quiet, silly or angry because of the topic of conversation or because she reminds him of a cousin of his or something else entirely different.

    It sounds like it's something pretty obvious, though, if the other women notice it enough to feel uncomfortable. I wish I had better advice, but that's just...odd. If it's constant, then maybe it is time to let him go -- not because he needs to chase someone he finds more attractive but so he can learn some social graces that don't include turning into a fractious toddler around pretty women.

    That's just a strange situation. I don't know that my husband even notices how other women look, let alone acting different around them.

    By the way, you have a great writing voice. If he doesn't think you're sufficiently awesome, I am entirely sure you'd have no trouble finding a boyfriend who would. :)

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  • People get bored really easily. And then they search for something else. It's like when a kid gets bored of a toy, and gets a new toy, he will ignore the old toy and play with the new toy, even if the old toy looks better than the new one. But he will like the new one better, because it's NEW.
    It's called diversity.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    Face palm. Manly women aka butches are anything but attractive.

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  • "that my boyfriend completely changes around an attractive woman"

    Wow, news flash.

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  • Thank you ProseAthlete.Your comments helped me.

    To other commenters: He is attracted to short, stockier women (with short bigger legs and hips) who have sharp angular features. These women do not necessarily have short hair. I am exactly the opposite.

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    • Koda

      You don't really see too many short, curvy women with angular/gaunt faces around.

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    • RomeoDeMontague

      Perhaps he is intimatated by them

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