Is it normal that my boss tries to get very involved with me? what should i do?

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Hi, I had no idea where to put this and I didn't want any of my friends to see or know about this. Sorry if it's the wrong section!

Well basically I’m 23, recently graduated and started my first real job around 4 months ago. Since I started my new job the first person I met at my workplace was my boss (didn't know he was the boss of the branch until about a week later!). So during that week I got quite comfortable with him and he helped me settle in and all, but after I found out he was the boss I got a bit worried since personal encounters should be kept personal - this made me worry for my job!

For the next couple of days I tried avoiding him and keeping a low profile, luckily he was out of office for the week.

After he was back from leave he started getting much closer. For example he would call me into his office just to have a casual chat and then added me on facebook. He now goes gym same time as me! At first I thought he just being friendly, but then he started giving more-than-friend looks. Two weeks later, putting up with these problems, he invited me to a dinner with some other colleagues. During the dinner got VERY drunk and started to touch and kiss me, getting me worried.

The next day he apologised and took me Restaurant Gordon Ramsay (which happens to be quite expensive) for dinner to make up. Now I doubt you'd take someone to a renowned restaurant just to make up for a drunken slip-up.

Since then he's taken me quite a few places and hinted that he wants to be more than friends. Although he's very good looking and is nice, there are 2 problems - he's my boss and mainly the fact that I just don't like him that way.

Maybe if I gave in I could like him in that sense but I just can't and don't want to be known as a "boss banger".

Next week is his birthday and I know what he's hoping.

Is it normal to have a boss like this? What should I do about him?

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    You need to learn what is and isn't appropriate behavior.

    1) Casual chat - perfectly fine
    2) Facebook - also fine. I don't do this myself but my coworkers do.
    3) Gym - also fine.
    4) Looks - getting into "yellow light" or "red light" behavior.
    5) Kissing you - inappropriate.

    What you need to do.... if you want a relationship with him then have it.
    if you don't want a relationship tell him "no thank you" and then decline his dinner invitations unless it's a "entire office" kind of thing.

    Be professional about it and do not encourage his behavior.

    Right now you're going out with him and you're sending him the wrong signals. Don't be afraid about breaking his heart. Just tell him, "No thank you" firmly but politely.

    And brush up on your resume. Just in case this makes your job hard

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  • normalfeet
    12 years ago

    You could get a raise

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    • ChloeK
      12 years ago

      By far the funniest reply :D.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Have you checked out whether he's married or not? Or whether this is his usual game with every new girl?

    You are making big mistakes going out to dinner alone with him!!

    Get out now, before you get in too deep and get the sack. Coz believe it or not, this is what usually happens to the female - if his boss sees it, or his wife or gf is told about you :(

    Tell him you are busy every single evening from now on or even that you've got a new bf and are too busy. Stop wasting your hours entertaining him, you're not getting paid for all these extra hours and it won't get you promoted.

    However, if you like him and he's single, go for it!

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  • IndianaRose
    8 years ago

    You need to understand if you brush him off in the wrong way you could get fired. If you dont wanna risk it just bring it uo you have a boyfriend in like a casual conversation for example whats your plans for the week oh me n my boyfriend are going out

    Or do the lesbian card

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  • peterrabbyt2
    11 years ago

    Are you a man? Getting sucked off by man boss is so liberating and you can get him to do it frequently. i used to let my teachers and bosses suck me off and it gave me a balance of power. Nothing like looking down and seeing your cock in your bosses' mouth. That is love! I remember my high school teacher sucking my cock and he did a wonderful job, swallowed every drop too. Getting a hard on just thinking about it!

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  • coolio75650932
    12 years ago

    dont like him? quit your job or simthing idk or sue him he touched and kissed you with out you wanting it to happen (eligal) so good luck and give him a punch to the face and an "I dont like you the way you like me" *i have same problem with one of my band mates she has actualy gone to jail befor because she touched my dick multipul times and she tried to hurt my wife and she was kicked outa the band)

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  • milkymum
    12 years ago

    say to him does he want a bj, if so give him one but if he wnats more say you wnat a pay rise

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  • AthenaKeene
    12 years ago

    Its normal. But he needs to learn to keep his hands to himself. Talk with him about this inappropriate behavior. He legally can't fire you and if he does you can sue him for sexual harassment in a court of law.

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  • Brendaluvshim
    12 years ago

    hunny, i'd give him a try!

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  • Dragonborn
    12 years ago

    well i guess that you should get some professional point of view on this eg: go talk to some union or something, but really if he is taking you to all these places that he might want an actual relationship not just to get what he wants all tho he should consider that you are a worker and that that stuff should be off limits.

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