Is it normal that my bf threatens me?

Tell him to prove it, dont be a little bitch pull the trigger of you really love me.

You should say that. When he doesnt you can call him a lying sack of shit and leave. If he does well the problem just sorted itself out

100% not healthy. I think you answered all of your own questions. If you physically can, remove yourself away from him as soon as possible.

Once again I'm with Jennifer on this one, get as far away as you can, he may shoot you first.

Dump the loser ASAP! Anyone that volatile is dangerous!

LEAVE.

I also dated a guy who threatened to kill himself. When I got upset after he'd cheated he told me he'd attempted suicide but survived and that it was my fault for being upset at him.
He later admitted to making that up though in order to "make me stay with him" but of course he didn't see the issue in this.
Spoiler alert he most likely won't do shit, he's just manipulating you. These assholes know you don't want someones life on your conscience, and that you probably love them and don't actually want them dead and they use this against you.

Their called police

I'm sure you know the answer to the question you ask in the title of your query. You also clearly recognise that your boyfriend is controlling and manipulative, that the relationship is toxic and that only he has the power to try to change himself.

The question you should be asking yourself is why you feel that his happiness is more important than your own. (Not that people like him can ever be truly happy and content.)

Saying it's because you love him just doesn't cut it. Some people just aren't deserving of your time and affection. They are incapable of accepting you for who you are, unable to appreciate what you can give them and will gradually wear you down until you see yourself just as negatively as they see you and the rest of the world.

It sounds like you're smart enough to recognise the reality of what's going on between you two, but your insecurity means that he's able to convince you that you'll never do better than him and that if he carried out his threat to off himself, that would all be your fault. It wouldn't be, because that would be his decision alone.

From what you say about him, it sounds like he's profoundly insecure himself. I wouldn't be at all surprised if he comes from a screwed-up family where he wasn't treated with respect as a child and what he saw going on between the adults around him then wasn't at all healthy.

You can't fix that and you won't be able to fix him, so don't fall into the trap so many women do and allow yourself to believe that all he needs to heal is your unconditional love, compliance and constant forgiveness. The only thing that would give him is validation, when what he actually needs is to recognise his problems and seek help with sorting them out.

Leave the guy for good, put some effort into identifying why you feel that you're worthless and try to do something about that. Since he has threatened suicide, you need to be aware that sometimes people will decide to kill the person they blame for the pain they feel due to rejection as well as themselves, so you'd be wise to be very wary of him for at least the first few months following the breakup.

Its normal for guys to get weird about their girls hangin out with other guys and talking about sex with friends. But your BF sounds like he has got some serious issues.

I had a friend that sounds like your bf, he would call his girl a slut just because she would wear tight pants to walk up to a shop, he always got angry when she would go somewhere where other men were. He always called her a slut and accused her of cheating. Its was crazy, I didn't like the girl one bit but even I couldn't stand his shit any more.
Fucked thing was, she was cheating, we found out near the end of their relation ship she had been cheating for a long time. We found out, without a doubt as well. Then years later I found out she was just as bad as him, I mean I seen her do a few things but didn't pay much attention to it, also she could hold her temper when needed, he couldn't.

When it comes to you want to help him or hope he will change, truth is not many change although I have seen multiple times jealous abusive men grow up and calm down. I have also seen men get a lot worse to they were trying to kill the lady and kill me and kill all her children. Some get better but most don't and it gets to dangerous.